I had to cut some ties with my sil otherwise I would have lost my mind.
She is all kinds of crazy, but only those closest to her know it.
My husband deals with her because she is his sister and he has some of the same traits she does and doesn't understand my problem with her. Other in laws feel the same I do and have done the same thing. Not cut things off altogether, but put limitations on time spent around her.
My daughter has broken away from her, but still talks to her now and then. I did have to let sil know if I found out she spoke negatively to dd about me, she would be cut off from her.
I try to only see and talk to her at weddings, funerals and maybe one holiday a year. I am polite and talk about the weather. When she starts in with the passive aggressive insults of me and my family, I end the conversation. Sometimes abruptly.
There is no doubt she hates the fact I have taken control of our relationship by backing off. She used to come over every weekend, call me every other day and we spent every holiday together. Now, dh calls her once a week and she has learned to not bring up my name if she wants to keep the conversation going.
She is a wolf in sheeps clothing and I'm so glad I figured it out when I did.
She is all kinds of crazy, but only those closest to her know it.
My husband deals with her because she is his sister and he has some of the same traits she does and doesn't understand my problem with her. Other in laws feel the same I do and have done the same thing. Not cut things off altogether, but put limitations on time spent around her.
My daughter has broken away from her, but still talks to her now and then. I did have to let sil know if I found out she spoke negatively to dd about me, she would be cut off from her.
I try to only see and talk to her at weddings, funerals and maybe one holiday a year. I am polite and talk about the weather. When she starts in with the passive aggressive insults of me and my family, I end the conversation. Sometimes abruptly.
There is no doubt she hates the fact I have taken control of our relationship by backing off. She used to come over every weekend, call me every other day and we spent every holiday together. Now, dh calls her once a week and she has learned to not bring up my name if she wants to keep the conversation going.
She is a wolf in sheeps clothing and I'm so glad I figured it out when I did.