Here is my situation which I hope you can shed some impartial light on. Please feel free to ask questions. Sorry, it's kind of long.
My mom died at the beginning of this year. We were, are, a close family. My sisters and I (3 of us in total) already had my mom's house left to us in trust. Mom did that back in 1990s so if she ever needed nursing home care, they wouldn't take her house away. Sister2 and her husband lived with Mom. The house was in trust to all of us so Sister2 said they wanted to see if they could buy it. She never went to the bank until the end of June to see if she could qualify. Without hearing back from the bank, they decided they didn't want to buy it after all because they are getting older and don't think they can keep the house up. They started looking for apartments this month.and applied for one to move into in October. So that part is sort of straight forward, we will put the house on the market and divide the proceeds when it sells.
Now here's the muddled part and I'm not sure what to do. My Mom had a will which does not need to go through probate because the amount of her estate is small enough. We 3 sisters gathered at her house to support each other and look at Will, go through her insurance papers, etc. The Will was located and parts were read out loud by Sister1 who is the executrix of the will and trustee of the trust for the house. We went through Mom's box of important papers, found the insurance, the deed, and other stuff including a handwritten note by my mother, more of a list not addressed to anyone in particular. In it she names several personal items that were to go to each of us. She said the furnishings of the house would go to Sister2 who lived there (I'm thinking she thought she'd continue to live there). Anything she didn't want, myself and Sister1 were to have first choice. Gifts we gave her over the years we could have back if we wanted them.
Sister2 was being difficult with gifts being returned to me. Acting like I shouldn't have them, etc. We are not talking furniture at all.
She also started saying who she was going to give items to when Sister1 and myself were supposed to get first choice.
Now I'm not sure why I did it, but I asked Sister1 for a copy of the will. When I read it I was so shocked I asked her if there is another will because this will she showed me said that all furnishings, belongings, possessions, moneys, etc were to be divided equally among - and it lists our 3 names. So all along Sister2 has been dictating who can have what and when and she had no right to do that. Sister1 whom is executor has said she doesn't want anything in the house.
Now I did ask for something that they cannot possibly use in an apartment. This item was purchased by my mother. Sister2 got very upset, said I couldn't have it and that family does not act this way and that I'm trying to get anything I can. The executrix said nothing.
On one hand I want certain things, my mom said we are to divide her possessions and her wishes are not being carried out.
On the other hand I want family peace but it keeps nagging at me that as the youngest I'm being taken advantage of.
My mom died at the beginning of this year. We were, are, a close family. My sisters and I (3 of us in total) already had my mom's house left to us in trust. Mom did that back in 1990s so if she ever needed nursing home care, they wouldn't take her house away. Sister2 and her husband lived with Mom. The house was in trust to all of us so Sister2 said they wanted to see if they could buy it. She never went to the bank until the end of June to see if she could qualify. Without hearing back from the bank, they decided they didn't want to buy it after all because they are getting older and don't think they can keep the house up. They started looking for apartments this month.and applied for one to move into in October. So that part is sort of straight forward, we will put the house on the market and divide the proceeds when it sells.
Now here's the muddled part and I'm not sure what to do. My Mom had a will which does not need to go through probate because the amount of her estate is small enough. We 3 sisters gathered at her house to support each other and look at Will, go through her insurance papers, etc. The Will was located and parts were read out loud by Sister1 who is the executrix of the will and trustee of the trust for the house. We went through Mom's box of important papers, found the insurance, the deed, and other stuff including a handwritten note by my mother, more of a list not addressed to anyone in particular. In it she names several personal items that were to go to each of us. She said the furnishings of the house would go to Sister2 who lived there (I'm thinking she thought she'd continue to live there). Anything she didn't want, myself and Sister1 were to have first choice. Gifts we gave her over the years we could have back if we wanted them.
Sister2 was being difficult with gifts being returned to me. Acting like I shouldn't have them, etc. We are not talking furniture at all.
She also started saying who she was going to give items to when Sister1 and myself were supposed to get first choice.
Now I'm not sure why I did it, but I asked Sister1 for a copy of the will. When I read it I was so shocked I asked her if there is another will because this will she showed me said that all furnishings, belongings, possessions, moneys, etc were to be divided equally among - and it lists our 3 names. So all along Sister2 has been dictating who can have what and when and she had no right to do that. Sister1 whom is executor has said she doesn't want anything in the house.
Now I did ask for something that they cannot possibly use in an apartment. This item was purchased by my mother. Sister2 got very upset, said I couldn't have it and that family does not act this way and that I'm trying to get anything I can. The executrix said nothing.
On one hand I want certain things, my mom said we are to divide her possessions and her wishes are not being carried out.
On the other hand I want family peace but it keeps nagging at me that as the youngest I'm being taken advantage of.