DD19 has been dating her boyfriend for about a year officially but they were "talking" for some time before they made it official. (He is her first serious relationship) It has recently come to light that he has some anxiety issues and it doesn't seem as though it is being addressed. When my daughter suggests that he talk to someone he gets upset with her and tells her she just doesn't understand. The biggest thing is that he often feels "off" and thinks that there is something seriously wrong with him. He often googles his "symptoms" and then scares himself and goes to urgent care or the ER, most of these times he doesn't tell his parents what is going on but he is on their insurance so I know that they have to be finding out at some point. This is happening at least once a week and it is starting to impact her time with her friends and family.
I really like this kid and I in no way shape or form fault or shame him or anything of that nature for his anxiety as I grapple with it from time to time myself however I am concerned that it isn't being addressed. I am worried about the long run and the toll it may take on DD, and I really don't like that he gets angry with her when she tries to calm him down. She has talked to me about it and I have expressed my concern for the situation and I left it at that because I don't want her to think she can't come to me. I know that at the end of the day they are adults and he isn't my child but I am still concerned that this will grow into something more serious if not addressed now.
I really like this kid and I in no way shape or form fault or shame him or anything of that nature for his anxiety as I grapple with it from time to time myself however I am concerned that it isn't being addressed. I am worried about the long run and the toll it may take on DD, and I really don't like that he gets angry with her when she tries to calm him down. She has talked to me about it and I have expressed my concern for the situation and I left it at that because I don't want her to think she can't come to me. I know that at the end of the day they are adults and he isn't my child but I am still concerned that this will grow into something more serious if not addressed now.