With regard to #2-I'd probably decline to work at a company that thinks a McDonalds employee would make a better employee than an adult who was able to manage a fundraising effort that netted 30K. Chances are, with the stupidity of the management there, the company won't be around long anyhow and I'd be looking for a job again soon......Here are my personal experiences and observations over the years:
1. It is highly unlikely that you will have the luxury of staying home in perpetuity. Whether it's due to a downturn in your dh's income, health care costs, divorce or what-have-you, odds are that some time you will be forced to get a job. What will put you in the best position to get a good job in the future?
2. Most employers do NOT count volunteer activities as "real" work. I have been part of countless hiring decisions in both the private and public sectors and every time I am the only person willing to count volunteer work as real work. The ONLY person. I have heard over and over statements like: "McDonald's would look better on her resume than this fund-raising crap for the school/church/etc. Who cares that she headed up a 30 person team that raised $30k? It wasn't real work. Next?" This attitude was prevalent amongst both males and females and was just as true when I was working at Christian organizations as when I was working retail or in a professional capacity for the state government.
3. Employers do not want to deal with re-introducing someone to the working world when there are candidates with proven and recent workplace history. Example: Recently we had an opening at my workplace for a part-time admin asst job -- 65 people applied, most of them vastly overqualified. A significant number, however, were SAHMs desperate to find work because their dhs were laid off. I can tell you right now that the SAHMs went right into the "Do not want" pile because the supervisor for that position did "not want to have to spend time easing someone back into the working world after years of being at home. Not worth my time. Plus there are plenty of people in the pile who have skills they have used recently in the actual workplace, not just book learning or some volunteer stuff."
3. The older you get -- especially as a woman -- the harder it is to get ANY job, let alone re-enter the workforce. As an example, the last time I was laid off at age 43, I was told point blank I was too old even though I was fully qualified for jobs AND physically looked ten years younger than my chronological age.
4. The way our economy is headed long-term it is highly unlikely that your dd will have the luxury you do to stay home. It might be helpful for her to have as a female role model someone who works for money so she can learn from your lead.
Of course, others may have different experiences, but those have been mine and those are my observations.
With regard to #2-I'd probably decline to work at a company that thinks a McDonalds employee would make a better employee than an adult who was able to manage a fundraising effort that netted 30K. Chances are, with the stupidity of the management there, the company won't be around long anyhow and I'd be looking for a job again soon......
For me I chose to stay at home. I have only a few years of my life to raise my daughter then I can do anything want with my life. If I had chosen my career someone else would be spending more time with her each day and I didn't want that. I drive an older car, we have less money and less stuff but I am here for her when she comes home from school. I was home with her as a baby. For me it was worth it. I would gladly give up whatever I had to because for me there was nothing more important than being my daughters Mom.
I have a sister who "HAD" to work. She has 2 kids and went back to work when they were 6 weeks old. A family member watched them. She missed a lot. She has a gorgeous 4 bedroom home, lots of stuff. Vacations, you name it. For me I would never do that.
I think it's a hard choice but at the end of your life I doubt any Mom is going to say, wow my career was awesome, that house we bought, all those nice cars and fancy purses were great. They are going to think about the people that they loved and wish they had more time with them.
For me I chose to stay at home. I have only a few years of my life to raise my daughter then I can do anything want with my life. If I had chosen my career someone else would be spending more time with her each day and I didn't want that. I drive an older car, we have less money and less stuff but I am here for her when she comes home from school. I was home with her as a baby. For me it was worth it. I would gladly give up whatever I had to because for me there was nothing more important than being my daughters Mom.
I have a sister who "HAD" to work. She has 2 kids and went back to work when they were 6 weeks old. A family member watched them. She missed a lot. She has a gorgeous 4 bedroom home, lots of stuff. Vacations, you name it. For me I would never do that.
I think it's a hard choice but at the end of your life I doubt any Mom is going to say, wow my career was awesome, that house we bought, all those nice cars and fancy purses were great. They are going to think about the people that they loved and wish they had more time with them.
4. The way our economy is headed long-term it is highly unlikely that your dd will have the luxury you do to stay home. It might be helpful for her to have as a female role model someone who works for money so she can learn from your lead.
I think it's a hard choice but at the end of your life I doubt any Mom is going to say, wow my career was awesome, that house we bought, all those nice cars and fancy purses were great. They are going to think about the people that they loved and wish they had more time with them.
For us, it's not a financial decision, but a boredom decision when DD starts school back up in the fall.
I actually own the majority of our company and receive that portion as my current income. However, I'm a silent partner, so I don't work at the business more than a few hours a week. So there is no gap in my resume....technically.
Also, I guess for me, my biggest issue is not so much working during the day, but having to travel. I refuse to have a job where I travel regularly. Other than that, I really don't have super strong feelings about it. I would like to be home in the summer - but DH is here, and DD wants to go to camps all summer anyway
So i guess, I'll throw my resume up there and if anything really exciting comes along my way. If it does, then perhaps it's a sign that is what I'm supposed to do right now. If nothing, then it's a sign that I stay at home and volunteer at this point in my life.
just curious what type of work you do, what is your degree in?
I think it's a hard choice but at the end of your life I doubt any Mom is going to say, wow my career was awesome, that house we bought, all those nice cars and fancy purses were great. They are going to think about the people that they loved and wish they had more time with them.