I would go since you were his nurse. I think it would be a kind jesture on your part. Don't go for the reason of maybe sparking a flame but go if you really care about his family. Just my humble opinion. From what you said the family really liked you and appreciated what you did for their loved one.
Lew
I decided to go last night after all. I REALLY REALLY enjoyed talking and meeting and caring for this man and his family. I was only his nurse for 3-4 days but there was just something about him- the stories he told me about his younger days and his family- it was truely and honor and a privilage to get to know him.
The visitation was only till 8, my friend and I got there at 7:30 and we waited in line for over an hour and a half. We were the last of 4 people in line. A few of his grandaughters saw me and remembered me and thanked me for coming
: When we finally got into the viewing room, the sons and daughters were in there and his wife (she has terminal brain cancer), anyways as soon as the first sister saw me, she cut through a few people she hugged me and thanked me for coming then she got her other sister and brother (the one I like) and very excitedly told them I was here and the other sister grabbed me and was hugging me so tight for what seemed like hours- I honestly wanted to tell her I could not breath, and her brother, J, standing right there...I gave her my condolences and then J hugged me
,of course he was hugging everyone, so I didn't think much of it- he said he was glad I came and how good it was to see me again and then his sister said "J you must take M over to meet mom!" He said, "oh yes, you never got to meet mom..." my friend and I went over to pay our respects to the dad, while the sisters and J finished hugging the last 2 guests in line. Then he came over and introduced me to his mom- it was actually very sweet and I held her hand and she thanked me for all I did. I gave her my condolences. Then, it was time to leave and J gave me another hug
I did get to ask J how he was doing and it wasn't good news
whatever he has he said its lethal and theres no cure, just research- I really didn't know what to say. I said what I thought sounded goofy but my friend said it was perfect- I told him not to give up, try the research, you just never know and that he may be the path for someone else with this illness. He agreed. We said our goodbyes.........
I am REALLY glad I went. Apparently, I had made a big impression on this family. And maybe because of what J found out is why he never called...I'm not sure where to go from here. I still really care about J and his illness and even if its just as a friend, I would like to be able to be there for him, maybe that's the nurse in me
Today is the funeral, I'm not going, but I will call J in a few days just to check on him and let him know if he has any questions or just needs to talk he can call me.
Mulan