bangzoom6877
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- Nov 25, 2007
I was wondering if anyone else has had the same experience as me. DH gets excited about family vacations. Our older son is 3 and a half, and the little one is going on 15 months next week. Since we had our older one, we have been on 4 different vacations. The first was when he was 15 months old, to Niagara Falls, and it went okay except he was impossible one night at dinner in a restaurant. DH panicked, and the first thing he said was "We gotta stop going out to eat with this kid." DS was fine the rest of the trip and DH loved that trip overall and did not complain about anything else.
The second trip was when our older son was 18 months. We took an 8-night cruise (no flying necessary). DH complained the entire time that he was not relaxing enough, that it was too hard to chase after DS, that it was too hard bringing a baby on a cruise that is still in diapers. He said, "we're not doing this again until we have kids out of diapers." And that was that. No more cruises with kids in diapers for us. He seemed miserable most of that trip, even though we were with a group of 20 people. I'm not saying that he had no fun at all, it's just that he was very unhappy much of the time because he said he felt like he couldn't relax.
The third trip was last summer, a small one, 2 nights, to Lancaster, PA. Our older one was 2 and a half and the little one was 3 months old. DH was okay on that trip, but it was a huge fight to get him to go in the first place and he complained about all the work it was going to be with a baby and toddler.
The last trip was just recently. We did a 2-week road trip to Florida, which included WDW. We had a great time, but the infamous words came out, "We're not doing this again until..." This time it was "We're not doing this again until they're 4 and 6." He wants the baby to be potty-trained when we go again. Funny thing is, I diapered the baby every single time in the theme parks! So now the rule is, no cruise, no Disney, no big vacations until they are 4 and 6. He seemed fine on the trip. Then we come home and he complains to me that it was too much work and it will get much easier when they are older. I think it would be the opposite and they will be more defiant as they get older, which would be age appropriate. He disagrees and wants to do a small cheap 3-day "vacation" next summer, and we are off all summer because we are teachers!
Does anyone else deal with anything like this? Is there any way possible that I could convince DH to be more positive instead of focusing on the negative? I am afraid he will come to regret it, that he wished them to be older so he could enjoy different things with them, and miss the joy of them being so young. Or am I acting like a spoiled brat who thinks her family deserves a nice vacation at least? I'm not talking a $4,000 vacation every year, just something fun for everyone! HELP!!
The second trip was when our older son was 18 months. We took an 8-night cruise (no flying necessary). DH complained the entire time that he was not relaxing enough, that it was too hard to chase after DS, that it was too hard bringing a baby on a cruise that is still in diapers. He said, "we're not doing this again until we have kids out of diapers." And that was that. No more cruises with kids in diapers for us. He seemed miserable most of that trip, even though we were with a group of 20 people. I'm not saying that he had no fun at all, it's just that he was very unhappy much of the time because he said he felt like he couldn't relax.
The third trip was last summer, a small one, 2 nights, to Lancaster, PA. Our older one was 2 and a half and the little one was 3 months old. DH was okay on that trip, but it was a huge fight to get him to go in the first place and he complained about all the work it was going to be with a baby and toddler.
The last trip was just recently. We did a 2-week road trip to Florida, which included WDW. We had a great time, but the infamous words came out, "We're not doing this again until..." This time it was "We're not doing this again until they're 4 and 6." He wants the baby to be potty-trained when we go again. Funny thing is, I diapered the baby every single time in the theme parks! So now the rule is, no cruise, no Disney, no big vacations until they are 4 and 6. He seemed fine on the trip. Then we come home and he complains to me that it was too much work and it will get much easier when they are older. I think it would be the opposite and they will be more defiant as they get older, which would be age appropriate. He disagrees and wants to do a small cheap 3-day "vacation" next summer, and we are off all summer because we are teachers!
Does anyone else deal with anything like this? Is there any way possible that I could convince DH to be more positive instead of focusing on the negative? I am afraid he will come to regret it, that he wished them to be older so he could enjoy different things with them, and miss the joy of them being so young. Or am I acting like a spoiled brat who thinks her family deserves a nice vacation at least? I'm not talking a $4,000 vacation every year, just something fun for everyone! HELP!!