hi everyone!
Just need some thoughts from all of you, need a well-thought our solution.
My nephew who is in the Army, just got married this past weekend. This was a surprise to everyone except their parents. The reason given was they did this for spouse benefits. They had been engaged, and are still plannng on having a wedding celebration next June, on the date that would have been their wedding/reception.
Not that it matters-I adore this nephew, and his new bride is so sweet. They’ve have been dating for 6 years or maybe longer. And, perhaps it may matter, bride is still in college, and groom is about 1200 miles away, I think she graduates in either December 2018 or May of 2019.
So, what do I do for a wedding gift? Do I take the amount of money that I would normally spend on a shower gift and wedding gift and split it up Into a wedding gift, shower gift and reception gift? Or do I just send a fun card, perhaps a really small gift, and then just spend my normal amount on a shower gift, with their main gift at their reception in June?
I am really wanting to acknowledge their wedding properly, but I am not sure that is what they want, and since our DD is getting married in January, I am feeling really broke right now, which complicates things too.
So should I split up my total amount into 2 smaller wedding cash gifts plus the shower gift? Or just do the shower gift and then the bigger wedding gift in June?
I know I am overthinking this...
Just need some thoughts from all of you, need a well-thought our solution.
My nephew who is in the Army, just got married this past weekend. This was a surprise to everyone except their parents. The reason given was they did this for spouse benefits. They had been engaged, and are still plannng on having a wedding celebration next June, on the date that would have been their wedding/reception.
Not that it matters-I adore this nephew, and his new bride is so sweet. They’ve have been dating for 6 years or maybe longer. And, perhaps it may matter, bride is still in college, and groom is about 1200 miles away, I think she graduates in either December 2018 or May of 2019.
So, what do I do for a wedding gift? Do I take the amount of money that I would normally spend on a shower gift and wedding gift and split it up Into a wedding gift, shower gift and reception gift? Or do I just send a fun card, perhaps a really small gift, and then just spend my normal amount on a shower gift, with their main gift at their reception in June?
I am really wanting to acknowledge their wedding properly, but I am not sure that is what they want, and since our DD is getting married in January, I am feeling really broke right now, which complicates things too.
So should I split up my total amount into 2 smaller wedding cash gifts plus the shower gift? Or just do the shower gift and then the bigger wedding gift in June?
I know I am overthinking this...