Hi
I'm currently 21 and I completely understand where both sides are coming from. When I go away to college my parents can't stop me because they're not there and I'm living "independently." When I'm at home, they are strict and would never allow me to sleep with a man let alone be alone in a room with him. Looking back the past 2 years I really didn't feel like I was missing out on anything and even now I don't. By the time I'm out of the house I will be responsible/mature enough to engage myself in a serious relationship with a man and know I won't regret any decisions. With that said, I have slept (literally just sleeping) in a room with my previous boyfriends. However, the big catch is that parents were always around. Will her boyfriend's parents be present? Will they sleep in the same room? I asked my parents to let me sleep at my high school's boyfriend's house because we were coming back late from his prom. Both of our parents discussed it and sleeping arrangements were made for me in a separate part of their home. It worked out fine. Either way, it is YOUR decision so long as your daughter remains a dependent. I would just consider compromising by having both sets of parents on board and ensuring they sleep in separate rooms. I hope this helps and feel free to PM me.