I hope she reconsiders and removes them. We sadly understood he had struggles with hoarding. And I agree, we don't need evidence.I was with you China mom, until you posted photos. That feels very much like a violation, regardless of what your relationship was. I believed it was a mess, and didn't need photos to prove it.
My parents had enough valuable stuff that we were able to get an estate sale company come in and have a sale (I think we were at the lowest level, maybe $40,000.). Beautiful antique furniture, silver, Waterford, Lenox, artwork - their home was gorgeous. I also had friends and family do walkthroughs to take what they wanted before bringing the company in. I think our share was $5000, split that with my sister. Of course then we had to pay folks to dispose of what was left, if habitat for humanity wouldn’t take it. I think it would’ve been much easier just to burn it to the ground. Things are worth only what folks want pay, and most don’t want to pay anything. I definitely wouldn’t be paying a lawyer to get stuff backMy two cents - let this all go. Using a lawyer will cost you more than any used items from the house are worth. Used items in any house get you VERY little in return, unless they are truly something collectible or valuable on their own (like gold pieces). It will be a lot of time and energy spent chasing things you may never get back anyway - in court, you'd likely just get their value (and see earlier about what that's worth).
From this point forward, put a new lock on the door, and let your brother go forward with selling what he wants. He may soon decide it's not worth it.
And I am sorry for your loss.
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The friends would be doing me a favor if they hauled this stuff out (this is just a small example of the mess)
Here is the questions about pettiness. I have no interest in anything in the house except, if located, my late father's trombone. But, I have a strong sense of moral outrage that this individual has no right to do what he did. It should be up to my brother and I to decide what happens to the stuff, whether it be to keep it, sell it or divide it up amongst his other friends. Am I petty if I have the estate lawyer send the guy a demand letter asking for the property back? Even if I have no interest in the stuff and don't really care what happens to it?
Your post hit home, specifically the part about the gun. When my mother was alive, she went out of her way to show me a pearl necklace that she owned and specifically told me that it was mine, one day, "when you are responsible enough" - whatever the heck that meant. It wasn't like I was a child. I was a grown adult, a police officer. The State had entrusted me to make life and death decisions but my mother didn't think I was responsible enough to own a pearl necklace. But, whatever. It was hears to hold onto or to give away. Well, my brother (a different one) stole a whole long list of things to sell for drugs, including the necklace. Its crazy.OP--I know you and I have been going through similar things. If it makes you feel better to send a letter from a lawyer, then do so--I don't think you're in the wrong here.
That said, on another level, you need to be prepared to let this go. My DH only wanted a couple things when his dad died--he got his dad's pilot's license, but it turned out that his mom had sold Dad's silver cornet at a yard sale.
When my dad died, my mom saw fit to give his favorite gun to her oldest son. It was a beautiful weapon--inlaid with mother-of-pearl, silver overlays. I would have loved it--I'm not much of a gun person, but I'm naturally a really good shot. But, my mom would have never considered giving a gun to a girl. Instead...she gave it to the drug addict. It breaks my heart to think of my dad's beautiful weapon being sold for drugs and possibly used to commit a crime. I never, ever knew my dad to point a gun at a living thing--he was a target shooter only.
So, I feel where you're coming from. And you're going through a lot right now. I'm sorry for your loss.
I don't understand it either... as they say, no good deed goes unpunished. I think I was influenced y my (surviving) brother who is very compassionate and empathetic and wanted to play nice with everyone.I don’t understand why you didn’t change the locks since April, allowed these people to be in the house all weekend & have a lawyer get involved to get your items returned. Especially when there might be bills that need to be paid.
We have enough money to pay the creditors with proceeds from the sale of the house. Unless there is some crazy surprise creditor we don't know about, that is. I don't want anything except the trombone and my brother would like some guitars. I don't want anything else back nor do I need the money from the sale of any of the stuff.File a police report, I don’t think you are going to get anything back, but you can document the theft with the creditors.
Not at all petty. That guy had no right to steal. It's really quite simple.I am trying to suppress the urge to be petty. I am trying.
The story: My estranged brother died Jan 20 leaving myself and one brother as survivors. No other relatives, spouses, children etc. Deceased brother had a very large group of friends and also happened to be a hoarder. Some of the friends took it upon themselves to spend about two weeks visiting the house and letting themselves in to feed and try to catch the cat. He lives far enough away that I was grateful that someone was taking care often cat issue. About two or three weeks later, I went by the house with my brother and found and captured the cat within five minutes.... was their trying to catch the cat a ruse? hmmm.
One of the friends told my brother that he had taken musical instruments and camera equipment from the house "for safekeeping" because they were in view of the front door and could be stolen. I asked myself why didn't they just move the stuff out of sight as there are plenty of out of sight places.
My brother has asked this individual several times to provide photos and or a list of the items he took from the house. There has been no response.it has been three months today. I waiver between giving the friend the benefit of the doubt about this and assuming rightful intentions and the thought that he has stolen these items.
Here is the questions about pettiness. I have no interest in anything in the house except, if located, my late father's trombone. But, I have a strong sense of moral outrage that this individual has no right to do what he did. It should be up to my brother and I to decide what happens to the stuff, whether it be to keep it, sell it or divide it up amongst his other friends. Am I petty if I have the estate lawyer send the guy a demand letter asking for the property back? Even if I have no interest in the stuff and don't really care what happens to it?