Yes, I have been reading all the responses and as I have dial up, I have been having a problem today getting kicked off every 5 minutes.
I would like to thank everyone for their responses whether they were nice or not. I do appreciate all input. I have made my decision but chose not to share it as it seems that no matter what I decide I will probably get flamed either way.
I would also like to say that when some of you long timers are sad and missing friends that are no longer here remember it's because of their own actions they are gone.
When a poster asks a question, would it be tacky to ask for the dress back, that's the question. I didn't ask if people thought I was too involved, which I got plenty of responses on. BTW, I have only been involved as much as DS has asked me to be. Maybe if more parents were more involved then we wouldn't have some of the problems with young people that we do today.
Also, some people really need to learn to read. I did not say that I was having her nails done just that her mother wasn't.
I did not say I was having her hair professionally done, I said that I had arranged for a friend to do it.
As for those who posted who cares. He does and I do. When we start teaching young people not to care what they look like or what other people will think that's when society starts falling apart. That's why we have kids who wear their pants down around the knees because who should care. That's when we have kids wearing thongs that show, girls wearing shirts that are 3 sizes too small and jeans that don't cover their back side, because who cares. Ultimately, we all do care. It is important to look appropriate for the occasion. If we didn't care then should he just wear blue jeans and a t-shirt to prom because who cares anyway? No, not caring is not the answer.
Yes, this is his prom and I do think that he should get to wear what he is comfortable in. Yes, white tuxes are still available and in. He may not ever get to wear a tux again and I think he should be comfortable as it is his prom. This tux actually came about because of a fashion show last year. He was an escort at a fashion show put on by the drill team. The tux company donated tuxes for the guys that day. When we walked in with all 3 boys the first thing out of the owners mouth was "you need to be in white with royal". He also had a lime green vest and tie that he wore with the white. He has very blue eyes and this tux looks awesome on him. He knew then what he wanted for prom this year. As this is his only prom I want him to enjoy it. I do think that maybe the mom isn't putting much into because it's not her DD's prom and I don't blame her one bit. I do believe they can afford it but choose not to put too much into it because it isn't her prom.
I would also like to add that yes, maybe I am taking this too seriously. He leaves in just a few months for ARNG. He ships out in September and who knows what the future holds for him during or after that time. I am embracing and cherishing every moment I can with him right now.
Here is a picture of the fashion show last year...and again I thank you all for your responses. Keep them coming. I like a nice friendly debate. I have no hard feelings to anyone for any comments made and am glad that people feel safe enough to express their opinions on this board.