Monte Cristo
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- Aug 28, 2005
Simple question that I am currently dealing with.
If your kids decided to move away from home at an appropriate age would you consider them ungrateful? If they were moving to a different city/state/country would you consider them to be even more ungrateful?
My question comes as a Hispanic male son who is considering moving from Miami to Orlando. I however am getting all sorts of guilt trips from my Hispanic mom. The reason is that the mentality from a Hispanic is your kids live with you till they get married, they then move out but live no more than 10 miles from you and weekends are always spent together.
I totally understand what you are talking about here. My wife is hispanic and we deal with this every single day. My wife's whole family is in MA and they all live within a mile of each other. We, however, live 100 miles away in RI and my wife is constantly getting grief from her Mom, aunts, uncles, etc. Not 1 phone call goes by without something being said...especially now that grand kids are involved.
That being said she wanted her own life. We visit about once a month and they have come down to our house a few times.
I think ungreatful is a little strong of a term for it....I can't think of a better way to say it, but to me ungreatful doesn't quite fit.
It's been 15 years for her...guilt is still there, but it gets better with time. Good luck to you.