hereyago
Miss My Boy Nubbs
- Joined
- Jun 20, 2008
Cremation isn't free. Even pers'are not obligated to pay for a burial, when ere are siblings involved sometimes it's best to consider everyone's wishes for the sake of those future relationships. Taking a hard line on something when a parent dies can damage your relationship with a sibling for years or maybe forever. That's why I suggested setting some money aside as it may be something in the future to consider paying for. Using all the money for a vacation or fun activity might become a bone of contention later. Whereas if there are no funeral or burial expenses, the money could be reallocated at that point. Why not think ahead?
The OP' husband doesnt have a relationship with his dad, so he wouldnt be involved with the final arrangements.
No cremation isnt free, but spending on the pomp and circumstance funeral is a whole lot more expensive.
If people have a relationship with their parents, my idea of thinking ahead is having frank discussions about what the parents have or need to plan for.
Some people dont want to discuss, but it isnt cute to leave your family to deal with stuff because you didnt want to think about it.
My parents thankfully thought ahead and all I had to do was make sure it was carried out.