Lilacs4Me
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- Aug 31, 2015
Of course I can function without my kids.
However, I was one of those people who genuinely liked being with my kids when they were growing up. When DS18 was little, I stayed home with him for the first 9 months, and went back to work part time for a while before going back full time. Then when he was 2 we moved and I worked 45 minutes away from him. I quit that job and started working at his daycare/preschool as the latchkey/summer camp coordinator so I could be near him and see him while I worked. He wasn't always in my classroom, but I saw him often enough through the day that I was happy. I was never the one to drop my kid off at daycare and go back home and sit around - nobody babysat my kids unless I absolutely couldnt bring them with me somewhere. And DH and I were broke in those days, so date nights happened with Redbox and microwave popcorn after the kids were in bed! lol
When I went back to work for real when DS18 was 10 and the other two were 6 and 4, I hated not being there, although my job at the time was pretty flexible, so I was able to take time off to do a lot of things at their schools. My boss at the time time used to laugh at my time-off calendar because it was completely obvious that my here and there days off were for my kids' activities. lol
I've been lucky enough to work from home for the past year now, and I love it. I love being home when my kids get home from school, and if they call home sick in the middle of the day, or if they have an event at school that I can run up to, attend for an hour, and get right back online without anyone batting an eye. I was able to spend a ton of time with DS18 this summer before he left for college, which I never would have been able to do if I was in an office full time.
The first time DH and I went anywhere without them for more than one night together was when DS18 was 16. And honestly if it was feasible, we would have taken them with us...like I said, we really do enjoy our kids and want to spend time with them.
That being said, I do think my alone time balance was a little off for a while. I never resented not giving myself "me" time (I HATE that phrase more than anything) when they were little, but once they were older, I started needing a little bit of time to myself so I didn't lose my cr*p with their teenage attitudes lol. I do go to a physical office location on Wednesdays, and I take advantage of that time to work late or go to the store, or honestly sometimes I will just sit in my car with a ice cream cone watching Netflix for a while before heading home lol. But I am still happy to see my kids and miss them when they are gone, and having just experienced DS18's senior year and him leaving for college, I know exactly how fast time goes by and don't really want to miss a whole lot of the next 4/6 years I have left with the younger ones.
However, I was one of those people who genuinely liked being with my kids when they were growing up. When DS18 was little, I stayed home with him for the first 9 months, and went back to work part time for a while before going back full time. Then when he was 2 we moved and I worked 45 minutes away from him. I quit that job and started working at his daycare/preschool as the latchkey/summer camp coordinator so I could be near him and see him while I worked. He wasn't always in my classroom, but I saw him often enough through the day that I was happy. I was never the one to drop my kid off at daycare and go back home and sit around - nobody babysat my kids unless I absolutely couldnt bring them with me somewhere. And DH and I were broke in those days, so date nights happened with Redbox and microwave popcorn after the kids were in bed! lol
When I went back to work for real when DS18 was 10 and the other two were 6 and 4, I hated not being there, although my job at the time was pretty flexible, so I was able to take time off to do a lot of things at their schools. My boss at the time time used to laugh at my time-off calendar because it was completely obvious that my here and there days off were for my kids' activities. lol
I've been lucky enough to work from home for the past year now, and I love it. I love being home when my kids get home from school, and if they call home sick in the middle of the day, or if they have an event at school that I can run up to, attend for an hour, and get right back online without anyone batting an eye. I was able to spend a ton of time with DS18 this summer before he left for college, which I never would have been able to do if I was in an office full time.
The first time DH and I went anywhere without them for more than one night together was when DS18 was 16. And honestly if it was feasible, we would have taken them with us...like I said, we really do enjoy our kids and want to spend time with them.
That being said, I do think my alone time balance was a little off for a while. I never resented not giving myself "me" time (I HATE that phrase more than anything) when they were little, but once they were older, I started needing a little bit of time to myself so I didn't lose my cr*p with their teenage attitudes lol. I do go to a physical office location on Wednesdays, and I take advantage of that time to work late or go to the store, or honestly sometimes I will just sit in my car with a ice cream cone watching Netflix for a while before heading home lol. But I am still happy to see my kids and miss them when they are gone, and having just experienced DS18's senior year and him leaving for college, I know exactly how fast time goes by and don't really want to miss a whole lot of the next 4/6 years I have left with the younger ones.
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