With respect, this is a most simplistic and unfair summary of what was posted.It has recently come to light here that many veterans don‘t care to be thanked for their service.
Thoughts or personal experiences with this?
I don’t see how it’s unfair. Why would I do that to veterans? I love veterans! My father was a traumatized veteran (and I and my family lived with the implications of that), I have beloved friends, family, neighbors and coworkers who are veterans, I worked for the VA myself and gave my best care to sick veterans (and still do), I give to veteran’s causes, both of my parents were big into veteran’s causes, etc.With respect, this is a most simplistic and unfair summary of what was posted.
Thank you for the articles, I read them both and appreciate the perspective. I do understand when they use the term ‘sacrifice’, too, as that was my personal experience, as well. My father was in combat in WWII and came home a different man than he went in. In those days they called it “shell shocked”, and there was little treatment for it. A lot of suffering took place for those veterans; for him - and for us, his family.It's more that saying thank you is NOT enough. It's not meaningful. It doesn't accomplish anything except make the person who says it feel good.
Try reading this:
https://thetab.com/us/syracuse/2015/10/26/thank-you-for-your-service-724
And this, if you want to know what you can actually do for veterans:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mi...lly-thank-veterans-for-their-service.html/amp
When you inquire about military rates with Disney, they ask a few questions to establish that you qualify. That is always followed by a friendly, "Thank you for your service" (or thanks to your spouse for their service.)As a European when I first started going to America, I found it really strange, that people just say it to strangers. To me its one of those things that makes the giver feel good about themselves but does not really do anything for the recipient. Its like when someone dies, people say sorry for your loss, um gee thanks, I guess. When people say that to me, it makes the other person feel good that they have acknowledged that my dad died, but it does nothing to heal my grief
I understand its a part of American society norms, but I think things like the way Disney gives Military discounts is far more meaningful and useful to Veterans, than some random person saying Thank You For Your Service.
I have never understood this perspective, that it makes the giver feel good about themselves. How do we know that? Maybe the giver feels other things besides ‘good about themselves’. I know I get emotional when I say it to someone because I understand the enormity of what they gave, as well as appreciate what their service meant to the people of our country. I feel proud of them, not ‘good about myself’. And if I say it, I mean it, otherwise I wouldn’t say it.As a European when I first started going to America, I found it really strange, that people just say it to strangers. To me its one of those things that makes the giver feel good about themselves but does not really do anything for the recipient. Its like when someone dies, people say sorry for your loss, um gee thanks, I guess. When people say that to me, it makes the other person feel good that they have acknowledged that my dad died, but it does nothing to heal my grief
I understand its a part of American society norms, but I think things like the way Disney gives Military discounts is far more meaningful and useful to Veterans, than some random person saying Thank You For Your Service.
I have never understood this perspective, that it makes the giver feel good about themselves. How do we know that? Maybe the giver feels other things besides ‘good about themselves’. I know I get emotional when I say it to someone because I understand the enormity of what they gave, as well as appreciate what their service meant to the people of our country. I feel proud of them, not ‘good about myself’. And if I say it, I mean it, otherwise I wouldn’t say it.
I disagree. If people say it, they are hoping that the recipient feels [things like] pride and appreciation, as well. It’s a small act of kindness between two people.You just proved my point, saying it has a meaning for you, but like when people say sorry for your loss to me, it has no meaning to me, the person who has lost a parent. When my dad died, I would have loved instead if people actually did something to help me, give me something I needed, something other than hollow words sorry for your loss. Because thats all they are hollow words which the person hears over and over and over,.
I respect your opinion and I am interested in your perspective, however the poster who took the thread in a particular direction was a Vietnam veteran and I am sure that people empathise with his stance. Also, the general criticism was of people who woodenly recite a robotic response, without any genuine consideration of the veteran. A British example of this type of lip service thanks is our treatment of the Gurkhas.I don’t see how it’s unfair. Why would I do that to veterans? I love veterans! My father was a traumatized veteran (and I and my family lived with the implications of that), I have beloved friends, family, neighbors and coworkers who are veterans, I worked for the VA myself and gave my best care to sick veterans (and still do), I give to veteran’s causes, both of my parents were big into veteran’s causes, etc.
As someone who regularly thanks people for their military service (and I have always thought of it as a public service*), I was just really surprised to hear some veterans don’t care for it, so I want to understand it more, and hear more perspectives.
Since that conversation I’m almost afraid to say anything now.
If you think I am off base, please enlighten me. I would really like to know.
* Definition:
What are public services examples?
Examples of public services include law enforcement, military services, healthcare, local government, education, and social care.
I have never understood this perspective, that it makes the giver feel good about themselves. How do we know that? Maybe the giver feels other things besides ‘good about themselves’. I know I get emotional when I say it to someone because I understand the enormity of what they gave, as well as appreciate what their service meant to the people of our country. I feel proud of them, not ‘good about myself’. And if I say it, I mean it, otherwise I wouldn’t say it.
I think it has to do with that the concept of being proud of your soldiers, or even your country, in the way Americans are, is very foreign here in Europe. It would never cross my mind to thank a veteran, or whether or not I am proud of someone else for their choice in profession.I have never understood this perspective, that it makes the giver feel good about themselves. How do we know that? Maybe the giver feels other things besides ‘good about themselves’. I know I get emotional when I say it to someone because I understand the enormity of what they gave, as well as appreciate what their service meant to the people of our country. I feel proud of them, not ‘good about myself’. And if I say it, I mean it, otherwise I wouldn’t say it.