Thankful for my Sons Angel

[Princess Row]

I went to a pretty large sized party last night.....I decided I would be DD so I was guranteed a ride home. With that responsibility I took on knowing when to cut my friends off from the alcohol (also to avoid puke in my car).
I was surprised at how many people still offered me beer after beer when I kept telling them I was driving. I was content with my sonic strawberry slushy!

I brought my friend back to her dorm with her stumbling and all and she's doing much better this morning. We cut her off after just a few beers but I was seriously shocked at how people were just really un-responsible.

 

[nemajovc]

Eons ago in college after having them over for dinner and a frank discussion by sorority friend on drinking sex etc I made the offer to my younger sister and her friends of no question asked ride home or where needed.
I got the call only 2 or 3 times once to take a girl to the hospital.
All these girls lived thru college and are doing well.
When ds gets that age I hope to have a great relationship but will augment with advice from a cooler relative nearer his age too if possible on the issues.

 

[Lanshark]

I haven't read all of the replies but I agree that this young woman showed a tremendous amount of character.

At my son's orientation they mentioned a rule on campus (I don't remember the name) that if you report someone in distress because of extreme alcohol consumption you are exempt from consequences listed in the conduct code.

Edited to include that he too had to pass a test on Alcohol Ed

 

[Pooh Crew]

Zurgswife, do you mind if I ask what this did to his bg's? I have tried to read advice in an attempt to guide my son, and one thing I read said to only bolus for every other drink...under the assumption of better to run high than have a low when you are in no condition to handle it. But then there's the issue of the liver processing the alcohol. If the question is too personal, please just ignore, but I was curious about the impact on his bg and how the hospital handled it with the vomiting if he was very low.

 

[SIGGGG]

I can tell you I plan to make a really be stink of how great the girl was in front of her suite mate (the girl my son is crushing on)....and make her understand how deadly the situation actually was and if the her suite mate hadn't helped it would have been deadly. Not just because of the drinking but it was the combination of drinking and his diabetes that is deadly.

I truly am glad your son had the angel watching out for him, and I'm glad he will be okay, but you should be making a stink to your SON so that he fully understands the deadly consequences of his actions. He's the one responsible for this. NO ONE else. I realize my response will be an unpopular one, but it is the truth.

 

[mapleleafmom]

you are SOOOO lucky....my hubby's old boss's dd...girl's first college party....someone was nice enough to put her to bed..but not to hospital...she was diabetic...she never did wake up...

broke the hearts of all of us....i am so thrilled he's ok..and that she did the right thing by him.....does he at least wear a medic. alert bracelet?? our young friend didn't

 

[Buckalew11]

I truly am glad your son had the angel watching out for him, and I'm glad he will be okay, but you should be making a stink to your SON so that he fully understands the deadly consequences of his actions. He's the one responsible for this. NO ONE else. I realize my response will be an unpopular one, but it is the truth.

I don't think Zurgswife has any disagreement with you. I think she knows he is responsible for his choices and his health. She even raised concern about this on another thread about kids going off to college.

A PP made a comment about the others and it is true--when those kids saw this happening, someone should have reacted instead of ignoring. However, it isn't their responsibility, it is HIS. She is just thrilled that this wonderful young woman acted and got her son help.

And if something more would have happened, God forbid he had died even, there would have been a lot of kids who carried terrible guilty feelings around for the rest of their lives.

 

[fortwildernessishome]

I can tell you I plan to make a really be stink of how great the girl was in front of her suite mate (the girl my son is crushing on)....and make her understand how deadly the situation actually was and if the her suite mate hadn't helped it would have been deadly. Not just because of the drinking but it was the combination of drinking and his diabetes that is deadly.

I am so happy that your son is safe and had a friend who helped him in his time of need.

Is is a true shame that more people didnt come to his aid.

However, if it was my son, I would be making a much bigger "stink" to my own child about how dangerous/deadly drinking is combined with the diabetes.......much more so, than to the suite mate of the girl that assisted him.

If you yourself (in this case your son), are not being safe/responsible it is hard to criticize others for not being either. (the suite mate)

All kids make mistakes.....your son did.....the suite mate did.........

Glad that he is safe and great that he was only 1 1/2 hours away so you could get to him quickly if you needed to.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I was just thinking about your son this morning, wondering how he was doing. You are in my thoughts.

 

[teller80]

Turns out at least one room already had an alcohol violation and didn't want to get caught again. This girl called the RA and paramedics.....

My DD goes to a school which does not issue citations for drinking, and I like that. I do not want anyone to second guess weather they should call for help if she's puking because they could get into trouble. Please, please, get her medical attention. Maybe you could ask the university about their policy?

 

[wuv tigger]

Scary, Kim. So very fortunate a smart young lady was present. A hug for both you and Bennett.

Praying for you all!

 

[SIGGGG]

However, if it was my son, I would be making a much bigger "stink" to my own child about how dangerous/deadly drinking is combined with the diabetes.......much more so, than to the suite mate of the girl that assisted him.

If you yourself (in this case your son), are not being safe/responsible it is hard to criticize others for not being either. (the suite mate)

All kids make mistakes.....your son did.....the suite mate did.........

Glad that he is safe and great that he was only 1 1/2 hours away so you could get to him quickly if you needed to.

This is the same point I made.

I've thought about it more too...while I would be relieved beyond belief and thanking God for a LONG time, I would absolutely LIVID with my child (and for the record, I have a DD in college...she is underage, and doesn't drink, and has no interest in drinking once she reaches 21...we've talked to her about drinking since she was old enough to understand). And if I were paying the college bills, there would be SERIOUS repercussions. Yes he made a mistake, and all kids make mistakes, but not all kids make mistakes that could cost them their LIVES. He is very, very lucky. But consequences would definitely follow if it were my child and I was financially supporting him. He wouldn't be taken out of school, but he'd be a LOT more accountable for his actions, among other things. Giving him some hard consequences may just save his life, because there probably WILL be a next time, if he gives in that easily to peer pressure.

 

[LisaR]

I think I am pretty hard nosed when it comes to discipline and I strongly believe in repercussions, but I wouldn't do much in this case aside from the firm, "This will NEVER happen again, right?"

I am guessing this kid has had one of the worst nights of his life. All the kids in his dorm are going to know about this, he has puked his guts out, and there is the fact that he almost died. Yeah, I'm guessing he learned from this and he won't be trying it again. Teens make really stupid mistakes.

Now, if he didn't seem remorseful, I'd handle it differently. Also, If I got wind that he was party it up again a week, month, or year later.......all bets are off.

 

[wovenwonder]

Thinking of you guys Kim!!

 

[WDWBarb]

DD came home last weekend for a very short visit on Sunday morning, saying she had "something to tell me." She wanted to tell me in person because, apparently, she wasn't sure how I would take the news.

Heart in my throat, I listened to how she had spent the night in the ER with a girl who had suffered alcohol poisoning. She said she was off campus with another friend when she got a call from another girl on campus who was scared and upset - there was a large group of them, all intoxicated, and this girl appeared to be having seizures. She didn't know what to do and, for whatever reason, called DD. DD called the campus cops, met them at the dorm and they asked her to escort the girl to the ER.

When DD was done with her story, I just hugged her. She said, "You're not mad?" and I replied, "Mad? I'm very proud of you." I told her that college wasn't THAT long ago for me and I remember lots and lots of drinking. I also remember lots of stories of kids who almost didn't make it home to their parents ever again. DD wasn't drinking and couldn't have gotten in trouble for anything, but I was proud of her clear thinking and how she quickly made the right decision (even though her friends were telling her that they were so scared of getting in trouble).

The girl is OK now. Scared her pretty good.

 

[zurgswife]

Thanks for all the replys

I truly am glad your son had the angel watching out for him, and I'm glad he will be okay, but you should be making a stink to your SON so that he fully understands the deadly consequences of his actions. He's the one responsible for this. NO ONE else. I realize my response will be an unpopular one, but it is the truth.

First, I found out his "girl friend" wasn't present when it got bad. So, there was no riot act. I did give the angel flowers, card and starbucks gift cards. My son is responsible. He has learned a very very big lesson....He is quite responsible about his D care and what he does; I'm confident the responsible side will kick in any other time alcohol is present.

you are SOOOO lucky....my hubby's old boss's dd...girl's first college party....someone was nice enough to put her to bed..but not to hospital...she was diabetic...she never did wake up...

broke the hearts of all of us....i am so thrilled he's ok..and that she did the right thing by him.....does he at least wear a medic. alert bracelet?? our young friend didn't

Yeah, that is what he was begging the friend to do and not call the EMT's glad she new better then to do that.

I don't think Zurgswife has any disagreement with you. I think she knows he is responsible for his choices and his health. She even raised concern about this on another thread about kids going off to college.

A PP made a comment about the others and it is true--when those kids saw this happening, someone should have reacted instead of ignoring. However, it isn't their responsibility, it is HIS. She is just thrilled that this wonderful young woman acted and got her son help.

And if something more would have happened, God forbid he had died even, there would have been a lot of kids who carried terrible guilty feelings around for the rest of their lives.

I am well aware he is responsible for his actions and have done my best to show him the best choices as a college age diabetic; knowing what he could be faced with....even the best laid plans....But I'm pretty confident this is a one time deal...

I am so happy that your son is safe and had a friend who helped him in his time of need.

Is is a true shame that more people didnt come to his aid.

However, if it was my son, I would be making a much bigger "stink" to my own child about how dangerous/deadly drinking is combined with the diabetes.......much more so, than to the suite mate of the girl that assisted him.

If you yourself (in this case your son), are not being safe/responsible it is hard to criticize others for not being either. (the suite mate)

All kids make mistakes.....your son did.....the suite mate did.........

Glad that he is safe and great that he was only 1 1/2 hours away so you could get to him quickly if you needed to.

I didn't make a stink to anybody. My son has learned his lesson. He is been a very very responsible teen and he made a colossal mistake and is very very aware that it effect others....his sister and his parents for one..I'm very certain it won't happen again.

I was just thinking about your son this morning, wondering how he was doing. You are in my thoughts.

Well, if you must know we are back in the ER. The diabetes complications made him get very dehydrated....so we are back in the ER getting lots of fluids and trying to get him to eat food without throwing up.

This is the same point I made.

I've thought about it more too...while I would be relieved beyond belief and thanking God for a LONG time, I would absolutely LIVID with my child (and for the record, I have a DD in college...she is underage, and doesn't drink, and has no interest in drinking once she reaches 21...we've talked to her about drinking since she was old enough to understand). And if I were paying the college bills, there would be SERIOUS repercussions. Yes he made a mistake, and all kids make mistakes, but not all kids make mistakes that could cost them their LIVES. He is very, very lucky. But consequences would definitely follow if it were my child and I was financially supporting him. He wouldn't be taken out of school, but he'd be a LOT more accountable for his actions, among other things. Giving him some hard consequences may just save his life, because there probably WILL be a next time, if he gives in that easily to peer pressure.

There are no consequences....I am not paying his bills. But he does respect me and he knows that I was very scared and hurt by his bad choices...I'm confident that he will not be repeating this behavior. He has always been the responsible teen and he made some really bad choices last night ...fortunately for him there was a guardian angel watching over him and I'm grateful. But we will move forward and that is that...

I think I am pretty hard nosed when it comes to discipline and I strongly believe in repercussions, but I wouldn't do much in this case aside from the firm, "This will NEVER happen again, right?"

I am guessing this kid has had one of the worst nights of his life. All the kids in his dorm are going to know about this, he has puked his guts out, and there is the fact that he almost died. Yeah, I'm guessing he learned from this and he won't be trying it again. Teens make really stupid mistakes.

Now, if he didn't seem remorseful, I'd handle it differently. Also, If I got wind that he was party it up again a week, month, or year later.......all bets are off.

Totally agree. That is how we are handling it because I know my son. He's sister is very close to him and she lives just a subway stop or two away...if she gets wind of anything you better believe the rath of his sister would be enough to keep him on the straight and narrow.

Hopefully, we will be out of the ER by later tonight....Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.

 

[Hannathy]

I think I am pretty hard nosed when it comes to discipline and I strongly believe in repercussions, but I wouldn't do much in this case aside from the firm, "This will NEVER happen again, right?"

I am guessing this kid has had one of the worst nights of his life. All the kids in his dorm are going to know about this, he has puked his guts out, and there is the fact that he almost died. Yeah, I'm guessing he learned from this and he won't be trying it again. Teens make really stupid mistakes.

Now, if he didn't seem remorseful, I'd handle it differently. Also, If I got wind that he was party it up again a week, month, or year later.......all bets are off.

I agree completely!

And I think he learned more and better and life long lessons from this than if he had gone all thru school and never had a drink.

He learned how fragile life really is and how precious.

He learned people aren't always what they seem to be on the surface.

He learned that when picking a girl there is more than who is cute, funny or smiles at him.

He learned his so called friends aren't always real friends

He learned you should always do what you need to do in an emergency even if you may get in trouble. (and not everyone has the courage to do this)

He learned his family really does love him unconditionally

And he learned that the booze tastes a whole lot worse coming back up than it did going down!

 

[Swan4Me]

Well, if you must know we are back in the ER. The diabetes complications made him get very dehydrated....so we are back in the ER getting lots of fluids and trying to get him to eat food without throwing up.



There are no consequences....I am not paying his bills. .

So you and your DH dont pay his medical bills?

 

[fortwildernessishome]

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I didn't make a stink to anybody. My son has learned his lesson. He is been a very very responsible teen and he made a colossal mistake and is very very aware that it effect others....his sister and his parents for one..I'm very certain it won't happen again. .

Glad you didnt make a "stink" to the suite mate.........I think that was a good choice.

Also glad it won't happen again, I am sure that is a relief for all of you.

So sorry to hear that he is back in the ER. Thats great that you are able to be there with him this time. I hope he recovers quickly and completely.

So nice of you to give the flowers/giftcard to the girl that helped him out.

Your son sounds like a great kid. Good luck to him for the rest of the semester.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I agree completely!

And I think he learned more and better and life long lessons from this than if he had gone all thru school and never had a drink.

He learned how fragile life really is and how precious.

He learned people aren't always what they seem to be on the surface.

He learned that when picking a girl there is more than who is cute, funny or smiles at him.

He learned his so called friends aren't always real friends

He learned you should always do what you need to do in an emergency even if you may get in trouble. (and not everyone has the courage to do this)

He learned his family really does love him unconditionally

And he learned that the booze tastes a whole lot worse coming back up than it did going down![/QUOTE

I got a different point of view then that. Explaining it will be the hard part what I am getting is the girl friend went to hang out with her friends not expecting him to get sick and someone else just happened to walk by and rescue him.

Are you with your friends 24/7?