It does seem like such a decision, especially if you have to make it soon. We were in a similar situation a few years ago. My dh got laid off after 14 years with the same company. He looked in vain for anything near home. Finally, he received a job offer in another state. Although our children were small (2 & 3), I told him to go on and accept the job and I would stay behind with the kids until we saw how things worked out. It was stressful for me, being alone with two small kids And I do mean alone--we have no extended family nearby. I could have used a hand during that time, but what few friends we had "shied away" from me for fear of being roped into being "our keeper". I mean, I couldn't even get a friend of neighbor to give me a lift to the kids daycare when my car's battery died one cold, rainy night. Finally, one of the daycare workers drove them home. She gets a $50 gift certificate from me every Christmas for her simple act of kindness.
Well, like I say, being alone with small children is stressful, but you can do it. Its a good thing I didn't immediatedly follow dh to his new job. About 5 months after starting the new job, the company started having financial troubles and layoffs seemed likely. Also, one of the headhunters dh had dealt with trying to find a local job came through with a fantastic offer back home. Within 8 months dh was back home, with a 25% increase in pay and excellent benefits. While your situation certainly won't be the same, still, I think its prudent to stay behind for ahwile and see how things work out before making the major committment of selling your home, packing, moving, all for an unknown. Its tight financially, but we managed. DH stayed in a tiny efficiency apartment and I picked up extra cash with a home-based business. If I were you I'd wait ahwile to see how things work out before cutting your ties in Michigan. BTW, I'm from Michigan--Warren, to be exact. We now live in Texas. I certainly don't miss the snow, but it does get almowst unbearably hot during the summer months. Also, do be aware that this region of the country is quite conservative and religious (this is the Bible Belt). Actually, that lifestyle suits us fine, but do be aware that there are cultural differences that you may or may not be comfortable with. Good luck, whatever you decide!