I would also not be happy with the arrival time, I think it's rude to even consider arriving at someones house at that time. She should have not put you in that position. She should have said, "We will be arriving in Boston at 3:30, so we'll grab a hotel for the first night." Then she should have seen what you said. That would give you the opportunity to say, "3:30 is no problem for us, just let yourself in!" or "okay, we'll see you at the beach." By saying "no" to her though you didn't give her any other choice but to get a hotel, she would have had to find something to do for 3 hours.
It sounds like she has a history of just "winging it" and is not bothered by inconveniencing other people.
As a pp stated, this is why I don't like family staying with me, and why I don't stay with family either.
It sounds like she has a history of just "winging it" and is not bothered by inconveniencing other people.
As a pp stated, this is why I don't like family staying with me, and why I don't stay with family either.