We went for two weeks in September and he was at no park for more than about 3 hours. The fast pass plus does not work for him because I can't know a day ahead let alone weeks of he will be ok to go to the park or what time we will be there. Of all the fast pass plus I made for him, he used one from 2 weeks.I think everyone is a little extra sensitive here and I know that tempers can flare up. It's so hard, we all want to give our children the best, more awesome, most enjoyable experience of their lives and sometimes we can't. It does not matter if your child is NT, autistic, in a wheelchair, blind or whatever, we ALL want the same thing. The REAL problem comes when one person's best vacation ever interferes with someone else's and that is what can happen with things like the old GAC which was as near as made no difference, an unlimited no time restricted fast pass. It's because of issues like that which caused Disney to re-evaluate their access for people with disabilities and change the GAC, which gave many guests preferential access into the DAS, which is supposed to give people equal access. Now, equal might not be "fair" to some but it is equal. We all now have equal access to the rides, we all have to wait out turn, some of us have to wait it in the regular stand by line and some of us will get to wait out that time in a manner that is better for our circumstances.
Sure I get that some people think it is only fair that he wait as long as everyone else and if that means he rides one maybe two rides the whole trip it is only fair not to interfere with the typical child who might only get to ride 10 rides a day.
If he decides he wants to ride a ride, it has to be right then or it isn't happening. I cannot know 30-40 mins ahead of time to get that return time. He had to think about it and watch the ride and insists he won't do it but then all of a sudden he gets the nerve to do it and it's let's go now. If we don't after all that emotional build up while he decides, then he is going to melt down and we are leaving the park. There is no coming back from the melt down and enjoying the rest of the day. It is the hotel room and a super long nap and up all night wrecking the next morning.
Because of his mental and emotional difficulties he does not have equal access to the rides - not in terms of being able to actually go on the rides he enjoys while we are there. No GAC is going to really change that but it helped. This new system is not going to work for him. After asking to go on a ride, he can't wait 30-45 minutes. It may not be right or people may think that it is I ridiculous or spoiled, but that is the reality. Restaurants won't help. He hates them and eats only Cheerios or freeze a dried yogurt drops. But Disney means so very much to him. He thinks about it all the time. His movies are such an important part of his life and to have them come to life is amazing to him. He barely spoke before his first trip to Disney a year ago and he started really speaking at Disney. He started actually playing - real playing not just carrying a toy around- at Disney after having had play therapy for over two years. It was Disney that made such a big difference in his life. Now I can't imagine it working. It breaks my heart for him. He's already asking about it again and I don't think he can go back honestly. The new system simply will not work for him.