I want to make a few things clear. First I do not want to be present when my son proposed. I have told him so. He insisted. After I told him about booking the cruise, he said he was going to propose then. It was his idea to propose on the cruise. Marriage proposal v. wedding proposal to me is the same thing. I do not even believe in love or marriages. I really didn't think people would pick apart my words.
I am single and I always vacation with my son (with plenty of trips to disney) and now that he has a girlfriend, she has been coming with us on trips. Her parents don't vacation.
I will be talking to my son and telling him everything that was posted. I am hoping that he decides to do the proposal elsewhere. Thank you everyone for giving me your insight.
If you all know anything about me, it is my experience and my feelings about overinvolved (self centered) inlaws!!!!!!
Having said that, let's not be too awfully quick to make judgements and flame the OP.
She did state that it was not that she wanted to be there...
And, her son is now backtracking on her being there.
I think it is possible that the fireworks cruise was mentioned, and everyone was caught up in the excitement of the moment.
I will continue to give the benefit of the doubt on that.
So, here are my thoughts....
First, it does bother me that this guy even, if just momentarily, considered proposing to the love of his life, with his mother anywhere around.
I am glad to hear that he is having second thoughts and backtracking on that.
It also bothers me that if the OP has been to WDW several times, as she mentioned... Why is it so important that she go on THIS fireworks cruise, THIS time.
That should not be such a huge factor, and should be less important than her son's personal engagement plans.
If seeing the fireworks, which can be enjoyed in so many other ways, from this cruise are more important than her son's indication that he would like to do this with his girlfriend, in private... then that would trouble me.
OP, you seem to be single, and also, therefore, very close to your son, and by my opinion, perhaps too wrapped up in his personal life.
There are SO many other wonderful options for the fireworks, the proposal, etc... I just can't imagine why these are not being mentioned....
I should not be... "I want to see the fireworks too..." (and, I will also guess that the indication is here... "and not alone".)
Whether you pay for the boat for them... encourage him to pay for it... or encourage him to make other, more personal and intimate plans...
The ONLY thing to do here is to understand that you really do not need to, and should not be, anywhere around.
IMHO, there are certain personal boundaries that should not be pushed, or crossed.
This would be one of them.
And, I would extend this advice to wanting to be overly involved in the future, with wedding planning, etc...