Does the bride to be open all the presents when 100+ people show up with gifts? Must take forever. I recently went to a shower with about 25-30 people. I thought the gift opening was taking forever. I can't imagine how long it would be with 4 times that many gifts. Most showers I've been to had 10-15 people who attended.
Also no one here ever mentions bridal parties. I've lived in many cities from one end of the country to the other - it's always been a thing for people to give bridal luncheons or bride and groom dinner or cocktail parties in honor of the upcoming wedding, etc. With NO presents. Just a way to entertain the bride and groom and spend time with them.
I gave a bridal luncheon for a friend's daughter two days before the wedding. Many people came in from out of town and many of the relatives only saw each other at weddings and funerals as they lived all over. No presents at all. It was a luncheon not a shower. I think about 40 people attended.
I've given countless bridal parties, but don't think I've ever hosted a shower. Of course I've also attended a ton of them as a guest too.
If a bride gets a $300 mixer at a shower - does it really matter if one calls it a shower gift or a wedding gift? Just say thank you and be gracious. Would anyone complain that they didn't get a wedding present if they received an extra nice gift at a shower? That would seem greedy to me.
I am 62 years old, come from a large family & have been to my share of weddings. I have never been to a bridal party/ luncheon. None of my family, friends or coworkers has even mentioned attending one either. I am an RN in a large hospital & have worked with many, many women of all ages in my 40 years here. Everyone shares stories while planning their or their kids weddings. I have never heard anyone talk about a bridal luncheon at work either. This just isn’t common in our region.
As for gift opening at large showers, in most cases, the bridesmaids get an assembly line type system going. There is a long table, someone walks the gifts over, a bridesmaid or 2 opens the gift or loosens the wrapping, slides the gift & card down to the bride. The bride reads the card, removes the rest of the gift wrap if on, opens it if in a gift box, holds it up, etc. Then they slide the gift down to another bridesmaid who repackages , moves it to another table or area. Gift opening can go pretty quickly this way.
Every shower I have been to is in a restaurant private room or a hall. The gifts are displayed as the guests arrive, lunch is served, games if there are any are played & then the gifts are opened. There is plenty of time to admire the pretty packages before the gifts are opened. Since in a hospital we can’t all just take lunch & have a coworker shower, those usually are a few people getting together in someone’s home. Might be a group gift given, or individuals give their own gift.
Where I live, gifts are given at showers. Wedding gifts are cash or checks, with an occasional bottle of wine, pretty vase or gift card. Those last things are usually from coworkers or more distant friends. And even for a shower, a $300 item is given as a group gift from several family members or from one of the couple’s moms. As a matter of fact, I gave my DIL a KitchenAid Pro mixer for her shower. Friends & extended family would not be giving that type of expensive gift.
And I agree with PP, showers & weddings are 2 separate events, I would never think the gift brought to a shower is also a wedding gift, no matter the cost. If you gave a nice baby shower gift, does that also count for the baptism or first birthday??