Bete
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Sep 14, 1999
I have an 87 year old mom who is in the middle stages of the disease. She has outbursts that can be embarrassing and she can get outright mean at times. She will cool down pretty quickly but there can be sparks for a few minutes. There is no real way of anticipating what will set her off. Normally, she is homebound. She has had some physical limitations, as well, as of late. I will need to do a wheelchair for her and I will be the pusher; I'm 56. Hubby who is 70 years old will be scootering himself. My mom never learned to drive and she would never do a scooter and I'm not sure she could anyway.
My mom has never been to Disney and I have longed for her to go there. I feel if I don't do it in the next year or so it will never happen. I've been to Disney too many times to mention and I wanted her to see what I have loved about it all these years. She has COPD but has not been hit by any biggies like cancer, stroke or heart attack. She does have a blood clot which is helped by a filter. She has mobility issues with arthritus. Her hearing and seeing are pretty good. There are a few other issues I will not mention, here.
I would probably eat at food courts or counter service most of the time; so, we could go with the flow of her moods. We would take it slow and easy. I would probably be well satisfied with 4 to 6 hours at the parks each day. If we had to skip a day, we would do so.
I plan on doing some activities to get ready for the Disney trip like going to the zoo locally, etc. This way I could determine her mood swings and see how I like pushing a wheelchair, etc. I'm planning on some weekend trips to nearby states this year and next year to visit family and friends with her. We go out to eat with her occasionally and she's pretty good at restaurants, but I have had a few choice moments in the process even doing that outing. I feel a little uncomformatable for those nearby like I'm intruding on their good time. Should I feel uneasy? Should I put my mom through this at this stage? I want to lift her mental attitude and mine for that matter; so, I thought this might be worth a try.
I wanted to get some opinions, here. Am I expecting too much from my mom with taking an ambitious vacation?
My mom has never been to Disney and I have longed for her to go there. I feel if I don't do it in the next year or so it will never happen. I've been to Disney too many times to mention and I wanted her to see what I have loved about it all these years. She has COPD but has not been hit by any biggies like cancer, stroke or heart attack. She does have a blood clot which is helped by a filter. She has mobility issues with arthritus. Her hearing and seeing are pretty good. There are a few other issues I will not mention, here.
I would probably eat at food courts or counter service most of the time; so, we could go with the flow of her moods. We would take it slow and easy. I would probably be well satisfied with 4 to 6 hours at the parks each day. If we had to skip a day, we would do so.
I plan on doing some activities to get ready for the Disney trip like going to the zoo locally, etc. This way I could determine her mood swings and see how I like pushing a wheelchair, etc. I'm planning on some weekend trips to nearby states this year and next year to visit family and friends with her. We go out to eat with her occasionally and she's pretty good at restaurants, but I have had a few choice moments in the process even doing that outing. I feel a little uncomformatable for those nearby like I'm intruding on their good time. Should I feel uneasy? Should I put my mom through this at this stage? I want to lift her mental attitude and mine for that matter; so, I thought this might be worth a try.
I wanted to get some opinions, here. Am I expecting too much from my mom with taking an ambitious vacation?