thornton0511
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jan 23, 2011
I'm 35 and adopted. My biological mom gave me up at birth (teenage pregnancy) and my parents who adopted me literally took me home from the hospital. They told me I was adopted as such a young age that I don't even remember the conversation. I have always known. 4 1/2 years after I was born my mom and dad had a baby biologically....who is my sister. This is my family, always has been, always will be. 10 years ago my biological mom had apparently hired a private investigator and found me. The trail literally lead her to where I had been living with my husband and son (I was pregnant with our daughter at the time). By pure luck we had recently closed on a house in another town and had moved days before she found me. Our old neighbor spoke with her, and would not give her our number or new location, but offered to have her give her own number for me to contact her if I wanted too. There was honestly no part of me that wanted to meet her, and while I appreciated the sacrifice she made to have me and give me up (I cannot imagine how hard that must have been on her) and also the hardship she must have felt to literally end up on my doorstep only to have just missed me, I still did not feel that it made me obligated to have her in my life as an adult. I ended up having my mom and dad contact her and tell her my wishes to not have her involved in my life at that time. She mentioned I have a half sister a year younger than me that would also love to meet....but that was declined as well. For me, meeting biological parents and half blood siblings would just complicate things. I am happy with my life, and my family. It would have been incredibly awkward if I had been there to answer the door that day, and pressured to include strangers (blood related or not) into my life. Obviously I do not speak for the entire population of adopted children, but this was my experience and how I feel. I have a mom and dad, and a sister. They are all that I have ever known and I like my normal life the way it is.