luvsJack
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- Apr 3, 2007
I think the 'not seeing someone else' is pretty much a general advice irrespective of state. The judge may not care depending on a particular judge, but it could impact the willingness for the other party to play fair, to end the process in a reasonable time frame, the behaviors of all involved (including the new person) could impact decisions made, etc.
I think attorneys just give that advice because it can add another layer into something that can already be a complicated things (both legally and emotionally). Obviously people date while still legally married and nothing, to their knowedge, of ill will comes about it. But it's still probably just a general advice most attorneys would give out.
And as you can see by your brother-in-law the new person in his life impacted how his ex handled things. Judge still asked clarifying questions and even if nothing was amiss, the ex did bring it up (and for good reason in all honesty as that's a valid question with respects to minor children involved).
No. What I am saying is its NOT general advise everywhere. Divorces can get drug out for years, especially when kids are involved. To tell someone not to get involved for that amount of time is not reasonable.
The judge doesn't care because it has no bearing on the case. Bil's lawyer told him that in the beginning. Unless the child was being neglected, abused or the gf was some kind of drug dealer or wanted felon, it was ok.