Without any other background and assuming he is not delayed mentally in any way and there's no known factors; I'd say I'd be seeking counseling/therapy. Definitely not normal. - Has he always been like this or this new? If new when did the change happen; what factors could have been involved; what does he say when it happens etc.?Almost 12 yr old boy soiling himself. No he has no known medical issue that would cause this. He does not care that he stinks at home or at school an YES he does soil himself at school.
This is profoundly abnormal. I agree with the PP - get the boy some psychiatric attention immediately.Almost 12 yr old boy soiling himself. No he has no known medical issue that would cause this. He does not care that he stinks at home or at school an YES he does soil himself at school.
I believe a Psychiatrist appt. is in order.
I have to presume the child you’re mentioning was not neuro-typical or that there was some specific medical condition resulting in these symptoms. Of course it’s not normal. And thinking more about it, the entire premise of the OP - what would you do - is a bit absurd. Isn’t it obvious the child needs medical/mental health intervention, pronto?Agreeing with others-- first step, pediatrician/family doctor for examination and then a referral to child psychologist. That is abnormal behavior for a 11-12 year old.
There were issues with a 6th grade student in the school I worked at that one of the Aides was assigned to take him to the bathroom every class period or so to ensure that he was able to go in order to prevent him from soiling himself. (I never got the full details, but I would often chat with the aide outside the restroom next to the classroom I was assigned to.)
The school guidance counselor, nurse, and administration should be able to set something up that is similar if needed. If a kid soiled himself at school now, they would absolutely be calling home for a change of clothes and cleanup, especially in the secondary level. Beyond that, if it were a repetitive thing, they would have it documented and would push the issue to seek help for the child.
I have to presume the child you’re mentioning was not neuro-typical or that there was some specific medical condition resulting in these symptoms. Of course it’s not normal. And thinking more about it, the entire premise of the OP - what would you do - is a bit absurd. Isn’t it obvious the child needs medical/mental health intervention, pronto?
Maybe the question, without further context, seems a little odd. I mean really - what is there to do, other than get professional help immediately. And if it were my kid I’d be pushing the panic button.I'm reiterating what OP said. Of course it's abnormal. I put an anecdote from personal experience and the school's response to that child's health issues and suggested a trip to a physician for referral to a child mental health professional.
I'm thinking that OP is maybe looking for experiences from others who have had similar issues with children before. I would also imagine that they're setting up some kind of medical/mental health intervention to correct the issue because they know it's not normal.
I think that maybe OP is looking for some info that will help them through the process that can be daunting when you're inexperienced with these types of issues.
Does he have encopresis? Or is he full on soiling himself?