design_mom
probably more like my dad than I care to admit
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- Feb 1, 2007
I agree with the general thought that it is the hosts' choice whom to invite, and it probably had to do with budget as much as anything. But I also empathize with the OP. If my kids were the only two excluded from a family wedding, I'd be disappointed. I'd also be a little perturbed that I was close enough to the "action" to be hosting a shower but nobody mentioned the 'no kids' plans until the wedding invitation arrived. (They are not *required* to, of course, but it would have been nice to have a heads up considering that all the other cousins are included except the OP's.)
OP, assuming you're close with your sibling who is the groom's parent and feel you can do so non-judgementally, I might clarify the invitation. Not to ask "why wasn't Joey included?" but to make sure you understood correctly. If you understood it correctly, then you can decide to go or not go. But either way, if it's a "no kids" wedding, I would not take a child as your +1.
We're invited to a wedding next month. Everything I've heard about it leads me to believe that it's going to be a formal affair (very nice venue, etc.) We got the formal invitation last week and there was no inside envelope at all and the outer envelope was just addressed to "the Lastnames". The response card said "We've reserved 4 seats for you." so I feel confident the kids are included, but the way of communicating it seems to be changing.
OP, assuming you're close with your sibling who is the groom's parent and feel you can do so non-judgementally, I might clarify the invitation. Not to ask "why wasn't Joey included?" but to make sure you understood correctly. If you understood it correctly, then you can decide to go or not go. But either way, if it's a "no kids" wedding, I would not take a child as your +1.
We're invited to a wedding next month. Everything I've heard about it leads me to believe that it's going to be a formal affair (very nice venue, etc.) We got the formal invitation last week and there was no inside envelope at all and the outer envelope was just addressed to "the Lastnames". The response card said "We've reserved 4 seats for you." so I feel confident the kids are included, but the way of communicating it seems to be changing.