Ok, I have to chime in here. I feel like I need to make my own Chris Crocker inspired video "Leave Lasseter Alone!"
Not that I compare myself to Lasseter, but his situation is very similar to something that happened to me. I am a hugger. I hug many people, every day. Men, women, coworkers, teachers, the lady at the cafeteria that I see every day and share a laugh with - I'm a hugger. I used to be MORE of a hugger in high school and under grad. I would hug people when I first met them, when parting ways with friends for the day/evening, greeting people at lunch- this wasn't weird and I wasn't the only one. This was our social group, part of our own culture, intended to be welcoming and affirming. I was aware that not everyone was "a hugger" and some people let us know their preferences, no big deal.
This behavior changed when I was president of my sorority and one pledge filed a complaint about me. Apparently, since I was the chapter president, this pledge felt threatened that I would black ball her for saying something and the rumors and gossip got out of control. The situation blew up and became unrecognizable- I heard that I was a lesbian and had come on to her, tried to get her alcohol even though she was underage, that I threatened her. All BS, nothing close to what she reported, but the rumor mill just took off and went crazy. Of course, there were dozens of people that could speak to me hugging everyone and that added fuel to the fire.
We had a sit down with the chapter advisor and the Dean. Turned out she had a history of abuse as a child and was uncomfortable that I hugged her to welcome her to one of our pledge events. So, one girl, one hug, one event. Thank God my advisor knew me so well and didn't believe the rumors, and my sorority sisters were there for me too, but the other Greeks had a field day. The situation could have affected my ability to graduate on time.
Professionally, people hug in my workplace All. The. Time. I am a critical care pharmacist for a large hospital and trauma center. Maybe it is so prevalent because our job involves a lot of patient contact and dealing compassionately with families. There is a Respiratory Therapist that covers critical care areas, and we hug every day when we see each other the first time. One day I was sitting in my semi-private alcove and he popped in to say hi. I did not get up and hug him, but he started massaging my shoulders- which I was not okay with! I said, "Whoa, Chris- I'm not sure that's entirely appropriate." He stopped immediately, apologized and we carried on with our conversation. About a week later I saw him massaging the shoulders of an RN, and there were two other nurses waiting for their turn! Free chair massage! There was no reason for me to run off and report anything to HR. When he massaged my shoulders, that was unwanted and made me uncomfortable. I said something, we moved on. The chair massages for the nurses were clearly wanted and did not affect me in any way. I still hug Chris, as well as nurses, pharmacists, respiratory therapists, doctors and Lorena, the cafeteria lady.
I feel like I would get along very well with John Lasseter and he is still in my Top 5 people to have at my Fantasy Dinner table. I think he is an alcoholic, sounds like a happy drunk vs a belligerent drunk, and he needs help to get and stay sober. All the "anonymous sources" cited by the Hollywood Reporter come across as gossip and rumors. They named Rashida Jones and she wasted no time correcting them. I highly doubt we will get any new information about Lasseter. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle got engaged and Matt Lauer was fired. All much bigger names than some guy at Pixar Animation.
To me, it is difficult with all the accusations flying around in the media to sort which ones are more serious. Recently, it seems like any guy that has even complimented a co-workers hairstyle has contributed to a hostile work environment and deserves to be fired, which is ridiculous. I hope Lasseter can get sober, figure out whatever boundaries he needs to put in place, and comes back with more great stories to tell.