It’s tradition for the parents of the bride to pay for the wedding. We have always known that we would pay for dd’s wedding.
Her brothers’ wives’ families weren’t able to contribute a lot to their wedding/reception so we started the process with ods and then did the reception for yds. Luckily with so many friends and family pitching in, the costs get cut quite a bit. Here in the south that happens a lot.
As far as I know, dd and bf haven’t seen a venue yet that required certain vendors. And there are only two that were “all inclusive”. One very expensive, one more affordable.
The cheapest venue has been $3300 but as it’s brand new, only includes seating for the ceremony, tables chairs and linens for the reception. We would have to provide everything else.
The most expensive is $6200 but includes all set up and break down for both ceremony and reception, most if not all things needed for decorating, all china and silverware, linens, a wedding coordinator, venue staff who will help direct, direct parking, clear tables, help serve, clean up, etc. Also includes use of antique vehicles and a firework show. Just the venue and coordinator are normally more than that price. We would provide food, bouquets, etc, DJ, alcohol and the cake.
The venue visiting is on hold for awhile so not sure what other options may be out there.
For some the wedding is very important and for others it’s a waste of money. Just as in any other event in people’s lives, it’s really up to them and neither opinion is wrong.