Parents of the Class of 2019

PollyannaMom said:
Got a couple of laundry questions by text this morning. He seems to muddling through it OK.

He doesn't have classes today, and said figured the machines would be less busy - 10 points for "adulting"! 👍
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My DS did his laundry yesterday. His first class wasn't until 3:00 or 4:00 so he figured Thursday mornings would be much less busy than Sunday afternoons. I was impressed!
 
We're driving up to Rochester Sunday to take our son to dinner. His birthday is Tuesday, so we figured with the long weekend, driving up for the day wouldn't be too bad. My parents and my MIL have also never seen the campus, so they're tagging along, so we'll have a bunch of us for dinner. Had to double check that he didn't have anything else going on, but I guess he's free.

Haven't asked a lot of questions so far - ironically, the worst part about that has been the crap we're getting from our mothers. My MIL actually said to my wife, "Your father would have never stood for that", in reference to the fact that we didn't know anything about his classes, his professors or his friends. :sad2: Because leaving our (almost) 19-year old alone and not hounding him for details is bad parenting? :confused3
 
My DD has been at a summer program at her university since August 3, and today was the last day. She’s been traveling since 5:45 am California time and was supposed to land here 20 minutes ago. I was sooooo excited to see her. Anticipation has been building all day. Like all of you, I’ve missed her so much but really taken a step back and let initiate most of the communication. As I was about to leave the office to head to the airport I checked her flight status one more time and saw the flight was landing in Oklahoma City in 50 minutes—what the heck!!!! Her flight was diverted to OKC due to severe weather in the Dallas area. I ran to the window and sure enough, sometime after 1:00pm when the skies were beautiful, a dark angry crazy looking storm had rolled in. I did not even know until then that we were under a severe weather alert. She just landed in OKC and I am so sad. 😔. Waiting to find out what next. I knew I would find kindred souls to commiserate with here.
 
design_mom said:
My cat passed away while I was at school. My mom had told me that she had taken her to the vet and they wanted to keep her overnight for observation. She died overnight. I felt terrible about it, but would have felt worse if I didn't know. (I agree... it would make me feel disconnected from the family not to know this important news.)

I also raised rabbits for 4-H (netherland dwarfs and mini lops). I also had a special rabbit who was just different than the rest. I'm really sorry for your daughter's loss. :(
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My younger daughter has netherlands. Older daughter has/had (we're down to just one now) mini-rexes.

I texted her and asked her to call when she's done with her classes for the day so I can break the news tonight.

McKelly said:
Well, my son's roommate moved in yesterday. He said he seems "OK". They went to dinner and walked around campus together checking out where their classes were BUT he talks about partying a lot, something my son is not into (and I hope it stays that way - but my head is not in the sand). The roommate said he wants to join a fraternity for "free alcohol" and "partying." I told my DS that the "free alcohol" is not really free. I don't know much about fraternities, but I think they are fairly expensive. I can tell he is not happy, but he doesn't want to tell me. But he is sharing that with his sister...
He did say, "Being an adult is harder than I thought and I'm not even really doing everything yet. I should have given you guys more credit." And I started to cry!!!! Good thing it was a text!!
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Hopefully the roommate is just a talker, thinking he's going to impress the other guys with that "party" image. If not, well, hopefully they find a way to coexist for the length of the school year... and if the roommate does join a frat, at least he won't be in the room as much!

MerissaAndMomLoveDis said:
My DD has been at a summer program at her university since August 3, and today was the last day. She’s been traveling since 5:45 am California time and was supposed to land here 20 minutes ago. I was sooooo excited to see her. Anticipation has been building all day. Like all of you, I’ve missed her so much but really taken a step back and let initiate most of the communication. As I was about to leave the office to head to the airport I checked her flight status one more time and saw the flight was landing in Oklahoma City in 50 minutes—what the heck!!!! Her flight was diverted to OKC due to severe weather in the Dallas area. I ran to the window and sure enough, sometime after 1:00pm when the skies were beautiful, a dark angry crazy looking storm had rolled in. I did not even know until then that we were under a severe weather alert. She just landed in OKC and I am so sad. 😔. Waiting to find out what next. I knew I would find kindred souls to commiserate with here.
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Ugh, flight delays and diversions are the worst. I hope she gets home soon!
 
DS just sent me a text, he is on his way home for the weekend; a friend was coming home so she could work, and she offered him a ride. We sort of hoped he would stay on campus this weekend and participate in some things, but I'm excited to see him! It's been 2 weeks since he moved into the dorm.

soccerdad - I think my MIL took DS' going away harder than DH or I did.
 
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Move in day was yesterday at Hofstra in New York which is 4 hrs from us. We left at 2:30 am Dd had a check in time at 8 am , we made it there by 7 so we decided to eat breakfast at McDonald’s an while we were sitting there Dd began to get upset an crying that she was feeling anxious and overwhelmed an was going to miss me too much. Now I had been fine until she started crying, her older sister was with us an we both did our best to calm her and reassure her of her choice of going away for College.
Dd said she wasn’t going to join or do activities etc to which both her sister an I know it our hearts she won’t stick to that as she is an extrovert and very social.
We met her roommates who are from California they seem nice enough we’ll see how it goes with them the room feels very cramped since it is the three of them.
We had to say goodbye before the convocation an this is where I began to get upset an we were not supposed to see them anymore after that Dd did seek us out I think to give me one last hug an make sure I was alright. Dd previous statement of staying to herself didn’t last at all, she talked a chatted to everyone an in watching her Snapchat story on the ride home she was at the welcome bbq with friends she had made at orientation laughing an dancing.
I also thank you all on this thread for sharing your stories and insight it really has helped me as Dd is my youngest an only to ever go to college!
 
TB'sWidow said:
Move in day was yesterday at Hofstra in New York which is 4 hrs from us. We left at 2:30 am Dd had a check in time at 8 am , we made it there by 7 so we decided to eat breakfast at McDonald’s an while we were sitting there Dd began to get upset an crying that she was feeling anxious and overwhelmed an was going to miss me too much. Now I had been fine until she started crying, her older sister was with us an we both did our best to calm her and reassure her of her choice of going away for College.
Dd said she wasn’t going to join or do activities etc to which both her sister an I know it our hearts she won’t stick to that as she is an extrovert and very social.
We met her roommates who are from California they seem nice enough we’ll see how it goes with them the room feels very cramped since it is the three of them.
We had to say goodbye before the convocation an this is where I began to get upset an we were not supposed to see them anymore after that Dd did seek us out I think to give me one last hug an make sure I was alright. Dd previous statement of staying to herself didn’t last at all, she talked a chatted to everyone an in watching her Snapchat story on the ride home she was at the welcome bbq with friends she had made at orientation laughing an dancing.
I also thank you all on this thread for sharing your stories and insight it really has helped me as Dd is my youngest an only to ever go to college!
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What a rough day. So glad it ended on a good note. Big hugs to you and your family!
 
TB'sWidow said:
Move in day was yesterday at Hofstra in New York which is 4 hrs from us. We left at 2:30 am Dd had a check in time at 8 am , we made it there by 7 so we decided to eat breakfast at McDonald’s an while we were sitting there Dd began to get upset an crying that she was feeling anxious and overwhelmed an was going to miss me too much. Now I had been fine until she started crying, her older sister was with us an we both did our best to calm her and reassure her of her choice of going away for College.
Dd said she wasn’t going to join or do activities etc to which both her sister an I know it our hearts she won’t stick to that as she is an extrovert and very social.
We met her roommates who are from California they seem nice enough we’ll see how it goes with them the room feels very cramped since it is the three of them.
We had to say goodbye before the convocation an this is where I began to get upset an we were not supposed to see them anymore after that Dd did seek us out I think to give me one last hug an make sure I was alright. Dd previous statement of staying to herself didn’t last at all, she talked a chatted to everyone an in watching her Snapchat story on the ride home she was at the welcome bbq with friends she had made at orientation laughing an dancing.
I also thank you all on this thread for sharing your stories and insight it really has helped me as Dd is my youngest an only to ever go to college!
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Hugs. That sounds rough. I keep telling myself this is what she worked so hard for, let's be excited.
 
Dh, DS16 and I went out to eat and for ice cream tonight by the water and it felt weird to not have DS18 with us bc he loves seafood and ice cream. But while we were waiting for a table, he called. I had texted him last night seeing if it was a good time to call and he was at the gym. Apparently he’s discovered the indoor track in the field house (he ran cross country and track in high school). He said some of his classes were really interesting and his English writing class is going to be a slog. Not a surprise. It’s a ten minute walk from his room to where most of his classes are and he’s already figured out the food at one of the dining halls is not nearly as good as the other two and so he’s only eaten there once. His dorm is pretty huge - 8 floors, I’m guessing about 500 kids - and he said his floor is pretty quiet which he sounded a little disappointed about (strange bc he likes his quiet time alone), said everyone is doing their own thing and nobody really using the lounge. I’m guessing that might change as everyone acclimates. Overall, he sounded good and like himself, and I was so happy to hear that.
 
DS caught a ride home with a friend for the weekend. He got here Friday evening and I was so happy to see him! One of the first things he said was that he brought his laundry home and no clean clothes. :sad2: I told him to carry it downstairs and I would work on it, but he said no, he would do it, he had just run out of time before they left. He had sheets with him too, he said he had been there two weeks and couldn't stand them anymore.

He really likes it at school, and he is getting involved with things--a big thing, as he is an introvert. The first few days, he made himself get out of his dorm room and find his classes, go to events, etc. He has joined a soccer league and is planning to take a spot on a sand volleyball team if a kid from his hall has to drop out. The guys from his hall eat dinner together every night, whoever wants to. That way none of them have to eat alone because they don't know people to eat with. I love that!

He has slept a lot since he has been home, but it is still good to know he is here. Not sure if he is leaving this evening or tomorrow yet.
 
She got home 11 pm Friday and we stayed up till 1 catching up. Good news, she was already missing her roommate so they're really clicking. Theatre will continue to keep her busy till the performance in 4 weeks but she loves it. Found out they are doing 5 one-acts and 4 monologues for the freshman showcase and she is the lead in a one-act so that made her happy. Still a little overwhelmed but managing. Not always time to wait in line for lunch so we got some more mac & cheese for the microwave.

When that is over she will hopefully have time for the church groups and she is going to do intramural badminton. After meeting our former pastor at the org fair, she is excited to go to his church and youth group. He had no idea who she was until she told him he had baptized her as a baby. (He left a few months later.) I think it made his day.

She'll be home again next weekend because of some events happening here but then will stay on campus for the next and go to the home football game. Really good team, should be a fun experience for her.
 
DD texted yesterday and asked if she could go to Boston with friends. I thought that was so sweet (albeit unnecessary). I guess I'm glad she hasn't realized she can sort of do what she wants when she wants, lol.

I'm happy she's making friends and enjoying herself though. Hopefully classes are going well...I wouldn't know since I haven't actually spoken to her since we dropped her off at school 10 days ago. :rolleyes2 I'm embracing the no news is good news philosophy for now.
 
Oh boy - my DS continues to struggle. I pushed him to get a part-time job and he HATES it - and it is stressing him out. I think it was too much too soon. I thought it would help him meet people. Well, moving in with a total stranger and meeting guys in the dorm was probably enough new people to meet for an introvert. He calls me crying, and wants to come home, and that he made the biggest mistake of his life, etc., etc. I told him to quit the job and see if that helps. He had a four hour training, which was two hours on the computer taking tests and paperwork. Then he worked a four hour shift. They forgot to order him a name tag, so everybody kept yelling "new kid" at him and getting annoyed because he was "too slow" and "don't you know where anything is?" Well, of course not. His training was - just ask questions. I know most/part of it is him. My DD would be completely unfazed by that and would have dug her heels in and/or told them where to go!! My DS just wilts and cowers. Sigh.......
So, I helped him write a resignation letter, it was nice and polite. His boss responded back that she expects him to finish his shifts (two more four shifts this weekend) and he will NEVER work on campus again because she is going to fire him and put him in bad standing. Ummmm, really? Why would it matter if a student worked when he was just an "extra" anyway? Okay, well, of course, that put him over the edge AGAIN. I told him to NOT engage anymore with her and the university is in a rather large city, so there are a million other places to work........eventually.
I am SO TEMPTED to e-mail this girl back and give it to her, but both my DS and my DH have told me no, to leave it alone. But it so hard!!!!
 
McKelly said:
Oh boy - my DS continues to struggle. I pushed him to get a part-time job and he HATES it - and it is stressing him out. I think it was too much too soon. I thought it would help him meet people. Well, moving in with a total stranger and meeting guys in the dorm was probably enough new people to meet for an introvert. He calls me crying, and wants to come home, and that he made the biggest mistake of his life, etc., etc. I told him to quit the job and see if that helps. He had a four hour training, which was two hours on the computer taking tests and paperwork. Then he worked a four hour shift. They forgot to order him a name tag, so everybody kept yelling "new kid" at him and getting annoyed because he was "too slow" and "don't you know where anything is?" Well, of course not. His training was - just ask questions. I know most/part of it is him. My DD would be completely unfazed by that and would have dug her heels in and/or told them where to go!! My DS just wilts and cowers. Sigh.......
So, I helped him write a resignation letter, it was nice and polite. His boss responded back that she expects him to finish his shifts (two more four shifts this weekend) and he will NEVER work on campus again because she is going to fire him and put him in bad standing. Ummmm, really? Why would it matter if a student worked when he was just an "extra" anyway? Okay, well, of course, that put him over the edge AGAIN. I told him to NOT engage anymore with her and the university is in a rather large city, so there are a million other places to work........eventually.
I am SO TEMPTED to e-mail this girl back and give it to her, but both my DS and my DH have told me no, to leave it alone. But it so hard!!!!
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Aw, @McKelly that's so rough. I'm sorry he's had such a difficult start. :hug:
 
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