What’s something that people do to try to be nice that infuriates you ?

[ronandannette]

A guest at our Thanksgiving dinner insisted on doing our dishes afterward. I told her that we'd rather sit and chat with her but she repeatedly insisted. She even brought special rubber gloves. She ended up breaking an irreplaceable dish. I can't even find it on Replacements.

Oh yeah - I despise that. The last thing I want to do during a dinner party is spend an hour cleaning up. I've got plenty of time to do it alone afterwards.

 

[diznygirl]

Piggybacking on the traffic one - pedestrians that wave you to go when you’ve already stopped for them. I’ve already stopped! And I can get a ticket for your “kindness.”

 

[Jangles]

People who always try to FaceTime, rather than just telephone. It seems like an invasion of my life.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

It's a small thing in the grand scheme of things but when you are lined up at the supermarket (or anywhere really) and someone in front of you decides to let somebody else in in front of them because they don't have a lot of items. If you want to do that to make yourself feel good then give them your place in line and go to the back otherwise your good intentions make everyone else wait more.

OK I am adding this one to my list. I did not even think about it until now. It is infuriating. LOL
Mine is:
Although I have used this one on other threads, it still bugs me, replying all in an email when someone has some sort of life altering event, marriage, birth, death, a new puppy. I don't care that you (collective you) care it does not get you extra points in my book that you use someone else's life event to show how egotistical you are!

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

Oh yeah - I despise that. The last thing I want to do during a dinner party is spend an hour cleaning up. I've got plenty of time to do it alone afterwards.

I agree. First I feel it makes others at the event feel uncomfortable because they are not helping. It's not really a help anyway as you are the one who has to put all the serving ware away in the end. Also, it makes me feel like I am rushed when most likely I just finally sat down after waiting on everyone else!

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

Oh yeah - I despise that. The last thing I want to do during a dinner party is spend an hour cleaning up. I've got plenty of time to do it alone afterwards.

I agree. First I feel it makes others at the event feel uncomfortable because they are not helping. It's not really a help anyway as you are the one who has to put all the serving ware away in the end. Also, it makes me feel like I am rushed when most likely I just finally sat down after waiting on everyone else!

 

[mrodgers]

It's a small thing in the grand scheme of things but when you are lined up at the supermarket (or anywhere really) and someone in front of you decides to let somebody else in in front of them because they don't have a lot of items. If you want to do that to make yourself feel good then give them your place in line and go to the back otherwise your good intentions make everyone else wait more.

Makes no sense to me. You're waiting on the current transaction and my letting the person behind me go before I do because they have 3 items in no way holds up the line.

 

[mrodgers]

When you’ve just gone through a rough time and people try consoling/one-upping you by telling their hardship story.

You know my mother? She also lets me know how horrible I eat as if she has any idea what I eat. Not sure how cooking everything fresh and nearly nothing processed is eating horribly compared to her processed Sam's Club prepackaged hamburgers and chicken sandwiches...

 

[mrodgers]

A guest at our Thanksgiving dinner insisted on doing our dishes afterward. I told her that we'd rather sit and chat with her but she repeatedly insisted. She even brought special rubber gloves. She ended up breaking an irreplaceable dish. I can't even find it on Replacements.

Sheesh, my mother again, LOL. She can't leave the kitchen alone past about 1 minute after she'd done eating. That's fine at home by yourself but I have the next 4 days off work and a house full of 20 other people, leave them alone and I'll get to them later.

 

[Moliphino]

Makes no sense to me. You're waiting on the current transaction and my letting the person behind me go before I do because they have 3 items in no way holds up the line.

I think they meant someone who was not already in line, not two people in front of them changing places.

 

[mom to minnie&mickey]

Makes no sense to me. You're waiting on the current transaction and my letting the person behind me go before I do because they have 3 items in no way holds up the line.

Not someone who was already in line and just switched places but someone who was not and walked up to the front of the line holding say one or two items hoping someone near the cash will let them in. Usually when the store is busy and each time I have witnessed it someone does.

Edited: Moliphino beat me to it!

 

[DisneyHardin]

Sheesh, my mother again, LOL. She can't leave the kitchen alone past about 1 minute after she'd done eating. That's fine at home by yourself but I have the next 4 days off work and a house full of 20 other people, leave them alone and I'll get to them later.

This is my sister in law. She gobbles up her food in record time so she can start on the dishes, then she makes everyone else feel bad because we are still sitting around eating while she is scrubbing pots. God forbid you should actually want seconds because as soon as the last person goes through the food line, she gets out the Tupperware and starts boxing it up. We have all our family dinners at my parents house and my Dad constantly tells her to just leave it because most all the dishes can just go in the dishwasher, but she just refuses.

 

[hhisc16]

 

[AndreaDM]

Someone holding the door for you when you're a ways off. I feel like I have to run to get there and it's just awkward all around.

 

[ronandannette]

This is my sister in law. She gobbles up her food in record time so she can start on the dishes, then she makes everyone else feel bad because we are still sitting around eating while she is scrubbing pots. God forbid you should actually want seconds because as soon as the last person goes through the food line, she gets out the Tupperware and starts boxing it up. We have all our family dinners at my parents house and my Dad constantly tells her to just leave it because most all the dishes can just go in the dishwasher, but she just refuses.

It’s really obnoxious, especially if you’re at someone else’s house. Now if I’m a guest and the host(ess) jumps up right and starts doing the dishes while we are all sitting around the table, I will help but I do kind of resent it. And never in all my years have I ever seen it result in anything other than the women all futzing around the dishpan while the men linger with their after-dinner drinks or coffee. It’s awkward and far from my idea of a gracious evening.

If there’s anybody here that will admit to doing this, I’d love to have them help me understand why.

 

[slo]

I’ve been reading these and many surprise me, especially about letting someone check out at the grocery store ahead of you when they have 2 items and your cart and everyone else’s cart is full. If my cart is full and someone can check out and pay faster than me taking the items out of my cart, I will ask someone to go ahead of me every time. It has nothing to do with making myself feel good, but everything with just being kind. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”

 

[ronandannette]

I’ve been reading these and many surprise me, especially about letting someone check out at the grocery store ahead of you when they have 2 items and your cart and everyone else’s cart is full. If my cart is full and someone can check out and pay faster than me taking the items out of my cart, I will ask someone to go ahead of me every time. It has nothing to do with making myself feel good, but everything with just being kind. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”

Understood but do you let new people into the line, or just someone already in the line but behind you, switch places? If you let in someone new and you’re not the last in line, you’ve just made a decision that effects everyone else.

 

[easyas123]

The ones who disrupt traffic to let someone else go. They think they're being nice, but they're really making the situation less safe and disrupting everyone else.

Wave you on at a 4-way stop when it's their turn. It just messes with the turns.

yes yes yes THIS 100%!!!!

 

[slo]

Understood but do you let new people into the line, or just someone already in the line but behind you, switch places? If you let in someone new and you’re not the last in line, you’ve just made a decision that effects everyone else.

It doesn’t matter to me if they’ve already been waiting or new to the line.
If someone has 2 items and I have 60 items and that person is able to check out and pay before my cart is empty it effects no one, because the people behind me are not waiting longer.

 

[Moliphino]

It doesn’t matter to me if they’ve already been waiting or new to the line.
If someone has 2 items and I have 60 items and that person is able to check out and pay before my cart is empty it effects no one, because the people behind me are not waiting longer.

Do your cashiers not start scanning until your whole cart is empty? That's the only way I could see it not slowing everyone else down.