aprilgail
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Nov 10, 2001
My birth mother is not willing to accept my presence (it is her prerogative) and it saddens me. However, the issue is hers and I’m accepting that. I can only assume she has so much shame and fear that it’s debilitating her judgement. If she would only have a conversation with me, she could understand I’m not out to ruin her life/reputation. For myself, it has been a life long dream to look into the eyes of the woman who gave me life.
The only one that knew about me was my bio moms husband- they were married with 2 little kids at the time I was conceived but had separated briefly and she met someone and got pregnant. He walked away and she and her husband got back together and then gave me up for adoption when I was born. When she got the letter I sent her in the mail she promptly contacted her kids and came clean. By the time I met her 3 weeks later she had told all her siblings and family about me. Her husband is one of the finest men I know. He was totally accepting of me and treats my daughter just like any of his other grandchildren and she loves him. My bio mom passed last year and next week he will be flying to the east coast to my sisters and I will be visiting him there-he is a really great man. When I first flew to their state to meet her I was so apprehensive about meeting him because I was afraid he would not be happy about me dragging up the past but the funny thing is he was apprehensive because he thought I would not be happy and blame him for her giving me up- neither was true. In fact he had told her years before that to try to find me and he was fine with it.