See, and I love the pre printed ones with a picture. There's no winning.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a generic pre printed one with a picture as long as there is also a hand written note.
See, and I love the pre printed ones with a picture. There's no winning.
I'm debating on what DS should do for his graduation party since he won't be opening gifts/cards at the hall and there will be about 125-150 people. When we do a big party we always stand up and thank everyone for coming and how much we appreciate their presence. But I may have him do thank you notes. Or do a standard printed one and send them out but I've heard that's tacky and they should only be hand written. I can't keep up.
I agree with you 100%, and I have done the same. It's a pet peeve of mine, when people don't send a thank you card. It happens a lot now. We bought my 12 yr old niece a nice necklace a few months ago, nothing. That's it she won't get anything else from me. My mother in law gave our 25 year old niece $5000 a few months ago to help her study abroad in England, she never even called her Grandma to say thanks, she would be done if if was up to me. But my mother in law is too kind and will help her again.I would have stopped sending that ungrateful family gifts YEARS ago! Probably by the third time I'd heard nothing back at all from them. That way I'd only be out about 600 bucks. Live and learn.
I know that it's normal in the Hispanic culture to NOT send thank you cards, that saying thank you when the gift is given, or like you say standing up and giving a general thank you, is enough. But really it's not. Your children are living in the US and are going to be dealing with other people who feel that thank you cards are important and count, that not sending one is considered rude, and maybe not coming from a good up bringing. And these people could count in their profession career or other things that could count in their life. It is important. I'm saying this with respect.Gifts shouldn't come with demands.
I really don't do thank you notes. I thank people in person or make a phone call.
I'm debating on what DS should do for his graduation party since he won't be opening gifts/cards at the hall and there will be about 125-150 people. When we do a big party we always stand up and thank everyone for coming and how much we appreciate their presence. But I may have him do thank you notes. Or do a standard printed one and send them out but I've heard that's tacky and they should only be hand written. I can't keep up.
I know that it's normal in the Hispanic culture to NOT send thank you cards, that saying thank you when the gift is given, or like you say standing up and giving a general thank you, is enough. But really it's not. Your children are living in the US and are going to be dealing with other people who feel that thank you cards are important and count, that not sending one is considered rude, and maybe not coming from a good up bringing. And these people could count in their profession career or other things that could count in their life. It is important. I'm saying this with respect.
Amber, Yes, OMG, if he butters the whole roll!!!!
The horror!!!
I agree, most people really don't know. But they should be hand written. IMO. It will make his mama look good too. And really it does count, and people do notice.I understand. I get what you are saying. that’s why i will have him do thank you cards. I’m just undecided on preprinted or hand written.
In this thread some say a thank you note is important and some think a thank you in person is enough. Or a preprinted card isn’t enough or a preprinted card is perfect. You truly can’t please everyone.
The last two weddings that I attended, I didn't get anything. No thank you note, no call, no picture. Literally, nothing.That’s last 3 weddings I’ve attended they did printed cards with a pic from their wedding. I loved them bc you get a pic of their wedding to put on the fridge.
I handle my dad’s finances, I decided he wasn’t sending out birthday checks (which mean I’m not writing them). The only ones who would get them would be my kids, and my sister’s kids (who want for nothing, my BIL never even cashed years of birthday checks my aunt sent, so she finall6 stopped). However, maybe SIL knows how much grandma would enjoy the hand written notes, I know my dad loves getting cards.That is a tough one. I think older people get so lonely that a written note is something that can really make their day. Maybe your SIL is watching out for Grandma and knows that a written note would make her so happy.
If your son doesn't want to take the time to write his grandmother a thank you note for a gift, that is his choice. But I think grandmas are worth 2 minutes of your time. I really do. Imagine what a handwritten letter means to an elderly person?
If you give gifts looking for thanks than they aren't gifts.
While thanks should be expected, they shouldn't be a requirement.
But your SIL asking if gifts weren't sent is incredibly rude.
I truly feel for you!! I have been in this weird vortex of quite a few people not saying thank you or acknowledging appreciation towards my gifts, or efforts. My husband and I took his parents, sisters, and their families on a vacation to Florida. We bought flights, rented house, 1 day at Disney, 1 day at Universal. (16 people all together) One of his sisters never said thank you at all, not to him or me. I gave her a baby shower the following year, no 'thank you'. This year I am helping give her a wedding shower, and I'm not expecting a thank you. I have been to a bridal and baby shower and wedding for a cousin of my husbands, not one thank you, verbal or card. Her bridal shower I even gave her beautiful personalized cards in hopes she would use them as thank you notes... no such luck as of yet, it's been a year. Maybe she doesn't know what to do with them? Who knows. I certainly try to teach my kids the power of gratitude and graciousness. Growing up, they were taught, the toy, or money that was received was not to be touched until a thank you was conveyed, whether by phone or in person. I can say this, these people have certainly lost my respect. Hopefully you can see your nephews sometime and go shopping or something special.