disney world dreamer
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- Apr 23, 2010
popcorn time cuz i've got to be done with this
Your sister isn't posting here as king if she's being unreasonable.btw you don't mention that my sister who is a mother herself has no common sense. only me even though we are watching the baby together other than yesterday.
It doesn't. Vision isn't a prerequisite of parenting.I'm glad the baby is doing well and happier when fed more. It's hard to gauge a BF baby sometimes and know how much they really are drinking.
OP - I had no idea you have a vision issue. Not sure how that impacts the discussion? Did I miss that in a previous post?
i think she makes her self pretty clear in that statement whether it was in response to someone else or not.
It doesn't. Vision isn't a prerequisite of parenting.
Your sister isn't posting here as king if she's being unreasonable.
It doesn't. Vision isn't a prerequisite of parenting.
Honestly, it appears to me that the OPs prior posts set the tone of the thread. It's quite obvious that some people have a negative opinion of her & any thread she created would be met with similar ire from them. IMHO, there have been too many references to past posts to think otherwise. What she has posted previously had nothing to do with this thread, but some brought it up to use against her anyway. To me, that's a shame & one of the few things that are negative about the DIS community.Do you not see that your OP set the tone? You were adamant that any baby being babysat should have a pacifier, and that's what most posters reacted to initially. You taking posters comments out of context, or completely misreading them, didn't help the continued conversation, either. You are acting like everyone is against you but you are taking no blame for your part.
Honestly, it appears to me that the OPs prior posts set the tone of the thread. It's quite obvious that some people have a negative opinion of her & any thread she created would be met with similar ire from them. IMHO, there have been too many references to past posts to think otherwise. What she has posted previously had nothing to do with this thread, but some brought it up to use against her anyway. To me, that's a shame & one of the few things that are negative about the DIS community.
I'm sure many of us don't agree that all babies need a pacifier, but some of the beyond hateful replies are mind boggling for a mere difference of opinion.
OP has often posted about all the assistance she needs on a daily basis and all the things she can't do alone due to her disability, so yes, it is a legitimate concern with her watching a newborn. My guess is her sister is watching the baby and she is there as a last resort back up.Your sister isn't posting here as king if she's being unreasonable.
It doesn't. Vision isn't a prerequisite of parenting.
Honestly, it appears to me that the OPs prior posts set the tone of the thread. It's quite obvious that some people have a negative opinion of her & any thread she created would be met with similar ire from them. IMHO, there have been too many references to past posts to think otherwise. What she has posted previously had nothing to do with this thread, but some brought it up to use against her anyway. To me, that's a shame & one of the few things that are negative about the DIS community.
I'm sure many of us don't agree that all babies need a pacifier, but some of the beyond hateful replies are mind boggling for a mere difference of opinion.
There's a difference in remembering posts & using them against someone. I personally think anyone with an objective opinion would think some of the posts are mean spirits & weren't meant to help in any way. I knew nothing about the OP until this thread, but I seem to know all of her negative traits now. To me, that's unnecessary & counter-productive in what is supposed to be a friendly community.Well, I'm not sure what to think. I knew I had seen a thread of hers before describing her frustrations working out because of her knee issues. And when I asked about walking the baby and whether her knee was recovered enough to do that, she seemed annoyed that I wasn't up to date on her other posts about how the knee was better now. Does she want people remembering her other posts or doesn't she?
Just looked back at some of your other posts, and many of them are mean spirited, and argumentative. why post mean things like your above post where you called her a last resort. Have regard for other peoples feelings.History of past posts have everything to do with this thread. It isn't a Dis thing, it is a universal message board thing. You don't start with a clean slate with every new post. Everyone has a history that people remember. That is exactly what makes it a community. When you meet your neighbors for a drink, do you automatically forget everything they've ever told you or forget anything you know about them?
Honestly, it appears to me that the OPs prior posts set the tone of the thread. It's quite obvious that some people have a negative opinion of her & any thread she created would be met with similar ire from them. IMHO, there have been too many references to past posts to think otherwise. What she has posted previously had nothing to do with this thread, but some brought it up to use against her anyway. To me, that's a shame & one of the few things that are negative about the DIS community.
I'm sure many of us don't agree that all babies need a pacifier, but some of the beyond hateful replies are mind boggling for a mere difference of opinion.
Many people choose to read them that way since I don't use smileys. I have no control over how people choose to read my posts, since there is no tone online.Just looked back at some of your other posts, and many of them are mean spirited, and argumentative. why post mean things like your above post where you called her a last resort. Have regard for other peoples feelings.
I am not familiar with the OP's prior posts, one of my children did use a pacifier, and I think the OP set her tone herself.
History of past posts have everything to do with this thread. It isn't a Dis thing, it is a universal message board thing. You don't start with a clean slate with every new post. Everyone has a history that people remember. That is exactly what makes it a community. When you meet your neighbors for a drink, do you automatically forget everything they've ever told you or forget anything you know about them?
Many people choose to read them that way since I don't use smileys. I have no control over how people choose to read my posts, since there is no tone online.
I just don't seen anything in the OP that would cause the obvious anger & hatefulness in this thread, unless of course one of you are the baby's mother.
first i'd like to say that i respect the parent's wishes although i do not agree.
my sister's friend recently had a baby and after visiting a couple day cares would prefer to not place her in one at least not at this young age.
so she asked my sister if we could watch her a couple times a week for the duration of the summer and then also wanted to know if i would watch her a couple times per week after that.
we agreed to watch her for the summer at least and i had not even met the newborn at that point so i said i'd have to get to know her a bit before giving my answer.
we've watched her 4 times now.
i can say that i'd consider watching her beyond the summer but there is one major deal breaker for me....
she has not introduced a pacifier and does not plan to.
her reason is due to breastfeeding.
she read somewhere that if you introduce a paci "too soon" they may not take the breast.
now i can understand that if she was purely taking milk from the breast.
but she's been drinking breast milk from a bottle during the day and the breast at night and has no issue.
i do not want to give her a paci to "shut her up" or anything but i can tell that when she has been fed, changed, and is not tired and just cries that its because she wants to sooth suck.
at home apparently she does so on the breast but obviously thats not an option for me.
she has been finding her hands but not for long enough to be able to calm herself down.
and when we mentioned that sucking on her hands could turn into a terrible habit to break and result in needing braces we got a shocking response that they don't mind paying for braces.
one thing they fail to realize is that its easy to take a paci away at a certain age but you can't just take a thumb away.
my sister knows this all too well since she sucked her thumb from the time she was in the womb and was still sucking it when she got braces at 16.
we have not mentioned it since and we have just dealt with it by tag teaming when she cries.
when she is crying due to wanting to sooth suck the only thing that calms her is constant bouncing motion so we do get tired after a little while.
she's now planning on having someone else watch her since i said no paci is a deal breaker.
i get the feeling she has not told that person about not using a paci.
personally i don't really think its fair to have anyone watch a baby without the option of a paci.
am i being unreasonable that i would not consider watching her for 8hrs per day by myself without a paci?
Your first post shows your rigid stance on pacifiers. Nobody made that up. You have said you feel it's not FAIR for a caregiver to not have the option of using a pacifier and it's a deal breaker for you. That's pretty darn rigid IMO.