When I met my husband, I had just been through a nightmare relationship and so had he... and I just wasn't ready to go down that road again if ever, so we were work buddies, hung out after work casually, then we started going out to the movies, bowling, dancing, to the beach, just as friends...he would fix things for me like my dryer, and when my car stranded me on the side of I-4, he came to my rescue. Never any pressure, and he made me laugh, and smile...but most of all he let me be me, no pretense...When his mom was rushed to the hospital I went to him and stayed with him all night... I knew that more was going on with us.. then I wanted to admit at the time... when I had the stomach flu and was so sick.... like to the ER sick and he came over and took care of me... held my hair while I was throwing up and I did not even think about it...it was completely natural feeling. He took care of my daughter as well, ordering pizza for her and him and watching movies that she wanted to watch, ice cream sundaes... Then we had went out with a group of friends one evening and he was dropping me off, and he said its now or never and kissed me... WOW... and we have been together ever since, 17 years....married 15 years in May...
He makes me laugh out loud everyday, still holds my hand, and the kisses are still WOW... He the hardest working person I have ever met, he's kind, and sweet. Confident, Honest and true...I know he there's for me...and I am there for him....We are a team... and he loves Disney....
I did not have that spark when we 1st met...I thought that he was attractive, and had a cute butt... Honestly I could not even tell what a real spark would have looked like at that point... We both had been through a lot with our ex's... so we were friends first...and really got to know each other. So when the rest started it was just a natural part of our relationship and Love for each other.... Honestly we are soul mates...which sounds mushy but its true...
Looking back the first time we had lunch he ate off of my plate, and I did not even think twice about it... Yep still eats off of my plate... says fries taste better on my plate...
The instance sizzle fades what will you be left with when it burns out...the fact that you are thinking about that with him... might be the start of something or not..... don't rush it and be yourself....
Good Luck... sending some pixie dust your way...