I want to know what you say to a 34 year old woman who is married and has been trying unsuccessfully to have a child for 7 years. She has finally become pregnant. Anyone who has struggled with infertility should know just how incredible this feels to finally believe they will become a parent after so many months and years of increasing desperation every time you realize conception has not occurred. At the 18 week ultrasound, massive abnormalities are discovered. Baby has no limbs. Organs are located on the exterior of the body. Brain is abnormally small. Multiple opinions agree there is no chance for survival post birth, but while in the womb, the heart is beating. Now the mother and father, after receiving this devastating news (which any of you who have lost a pregnancy should understand how that feels) face the terrible decision of what to do. Should they carry the baby to term knowing this baby will die as soon as it is born, which also takes away 5+ months of time where they could be trying once again for a chance to become parents, plus adds the risk that something awful could happen during delivery that would render the mother definitively unable to carry further pregnancies? Or should they abort, grieve their loss, and resume attempting to have a child?
What do you tell that woman (and her husband) to explain why that choice should be made by you, and not by them?
I realize some of you will say "oh but I really believe in an exception in this case, I really believe in an exception for rape cases, etc." But that is not what these current laws say. These new laws say that woman will carry that baby knowing full well it will die in five months, and she will sacrifice 5 months of potential fertility, plus risks and the significant expense for the delivery of said child-not-to-be. And honestly, even if the laws are written in such a way that exceptions can be provided, that means this poor woman and her husband will have to go in front of some random judge that is a stranger to them and spell out their private, intimate, devastating, medical struggle, and beg to be allowed to do what they and their doctors feel is best.
I think there is a severe lack of understanding that many abortions (and especially the later abortions) are situations just like this, and no one has any business having any say whatsoever other than the parents and the doctors.
The way to eliminate abortions of convenience is education, great access to healthcare from (all the way from prevention to prenatal care to pediatric care), family friendly work place policies, and low poverty rates. Not by taking the choice away from the woman described above.