A little family drama here, so some outside perspective would be appreciated. I invited my sister-in-laws to a bday celebration for my Mom who is going to be 70 this year, She recently suffered a heart attack this past June and we are lucky she is still with us. My Mom lives alone and doesn't have a lot of friends or family other than myself, Dh and our ds and dd. I mentioned having her celebration at a favorite tearoom, with a fairly varied menu which includes salad and soup. My one sister in law answers me by e-mail saying her and her husband are starting a diet after next week and she can't make it.
That was it. No other explanation. So I answered," if you don't want to come all you had to say is you don't want to come." To which she denied and said she just wants to lose weight.
My response was that I didn't know anyone who refused to come to an event because of a diet and that was a random excuse boy, did the crap hit the fan.
She then said her and her husband are spending a lot of money to go on this diet and that I have an attitude .
Some more back story: Sister-in-law has tried every fad diet there is and is always on some kind of diet and blows a ton of money and is never successful. 2 years ago we were suppose to start a diet together, well I did and I did an entire lifestyle change with my eating habits and I started to walk at least 3-4 miles every day. I lost 75lbs and have kept it off. Sister in law is jealous and has been aloof with me for quite sometime now.
Back to the correspondence, I replied by saying she should have explained herself and by just saying she is going on a diet, it came across as dismissive and rude and that honestly, she is always on a diet. I explained about it being her 70th bday and her recent health issues(which she already knew) and that I just wanted them to come because it was important to me.
well, apparently, in her opinion, I am acting like a victim and am a mean spiteful person because I wasn't supporting her in her weight loss, because everyone can't lose weight as easily as I did. Wow. I actually have struggled with my weight my entire life. As a teenager I dealt with an eating disorder and have always kind of yo yoed throughout my adult life.
She has totally twisted this whole thing around and accused me of "stealing her joy"( She is also a born again christian).
Anyway, sorry this is so long, but wow, I am just at a loss. help!?