goldcupmom
<font color=black>BL6 Black Team Co-captain<br> <f
- Joined
- Jan 29, 2004
Well, it's a New Year and I can't say I'm sorry that 2005 is over. I'm suffering from a food hangover from the last half of the year, but when I weighed this a.m. at least I'm down from last year this time.
So much has happened recently - updates for those who followed my old journal - feel free to skip!!
DS19 - went to court on 12/19 and it was dismissed as the lawyer had said. They still need a court date for a hearing to see if there needs to be a restraining order. Lawyer will try to get this a simple civil agreement to not contact each other. He still has no job - subject of much prayer! He is delivering phone books for some money - which MUST go on some bad check bills at least in part. I helped bag & did some much needed walking with the 1st route (he made almost $200) and he will pick up another tomorrow. If he can manage to do a total of 4 he will also get a $150 bonus. His car is still a lawn ornament.
DD - is now 14! Time is flying! For her Bday I took her and 5 friends to a HI Express where they swam, played video games, etc all night. Exhausting for me, fun for them. I watched 'Charlie Brown Christmas' 3 times and walked the halls keeping track of them all night. I did manage about 3 hours sleep in my adjoining room. Ate WAY too many of the soft chocolate mints at the front desk.
DS16 - dropped a bombshell on me on 12/7. As I was taking him to work on 12/6 - too cold for the cycle - he commented that he may not finish out the season of gymnastics. Later I talked to him and he explained that he does not want to go out of state to college, so doesn't need a gym scholarship, so why should he commit 2 more years, 30+hours/week. Said he was just thinking about it. Morning of 12/7 I asked for his Am. Hist. to submit while he was at work/gym and he said "Duh, I'm not going to gym any more" and that was it. 8.5 years of his life and he decided he was done. I was stunned. His reasoning is right - he wants to go to Pharmacy school and will need to work hard in college. He wants to do some normal teenage things before then. He can live at home and go for free here in NM w/ our Lottery scholarship for his undergrad. He is going to do ninjutsu and is going to work out at a gym. After all he has been thru with the "PITA" coach, I'm glad he left on his own terms. When he went to clean out his locker, the coach never even acknowledged his presence. It was sad.
DH - is still DH, or as DD would say ' grumpy old man'. Sad, but true. At present he has the upper respiratory virus DD had last week.
Me - I've put on a bunch of weight - stress eating is a major issue. But on the bright side, I'm less than I was a year ago. Since I'm no longer paying $250/mo gymnastics tuition + all the travel, we are joining Defined Fitness today ( if we had DH do a free week, we avoided a $55/person membership fee) DH has not gone once during his free week. He says he's not motivated to go and really doesn't want to. He is now at an all time high weight and it is concerning. Personally, I can't wait to go. DS16 and I will use it. DS19 will also be on our membership, but DD14 is too young. She is bummed. It is under 2 mi from my house and if I'm really ambitious, I could easily walk it. I am also going to start going back to WW meetings this week. Not sure what day/time as I don't really like any of my choices - that was the problem, in part, before.
I actually think I went into mourning when DS16 quit gym. It was a shock and truly a lifestyle change as I have also been very involved for the last 8.5 years coaching, doing all the travel arrangements, trips, running events, etc. But, it is time to move on and it is a very good move. He is growing up and beginning to look to the future.
So, I think this is the year for ME! I will still have to deal w/ DD's fencing, but that is not nearly as much. I think that as mom's we sometimes - oftentimes - put ourselves last and I know I've done that for MANY years. No regrets, but I always told myself that when my kids were older, I'd have time for me. Now is the time. DD recently asked me about things I like and like to do and I truly could not come up with things - I've basically lost myself in everyone else's lives.
I am planning to go to the gym 5 days/week. My plan is water aerobics 2-3 days, TM or other cardio, weights and maybe get adventuresome to try some other classes at some point. Using the pool and hot tub/steam room will really be a motivation for me. I'm going to try to focus on me, and not as much on everyone else. I have almost $500 in SW air credit(from already bought gymnastics trip tickets) that will expire in early April and I am hoping to go see my DSis in FL or have her come here. I'm going to Phoenix at the end of Jan w/ DD. I have a niece in IA getting married in June and may go to that. DH is going to OMNI hotel at Champion's gate in Orlando in July for a conference. He insists that we aren't all going, but he will soon learn. Yes, he has meetings most days, but their hotel rate is good for 3 days before and 3 after and they have several ' trips' set up - disney, NASA, beaches, keys, etc. This is all work? NOT!!! The week before, DD has fencing summer nationals is Atlanta, so we may have a long trip if I decide to take her.
So, I'm betting that this won't post - too long, but I'm going to copy before I try. More later......
So much has happened recently - updates for those who followed my old journal - feel free to skip!!
DS19 - went to court on 12/19 and it was dismissed as the lawyer had said. They still need a court date for a hearing to see if there needs to be a restraining order. Lawyer will try to get this a simple civil agreement to not contact each other. He still has no job - subject of much prayer! He is delivering phone books for some money - which MUST go on some bad check bills at least in part. I helped bag & did some much needed walking with the 1st route (he made almost $200) and he will pick up another tomorrow. If he can manage to do a total of 4 he will also get a $150 bonus. His car is still a lawn ornament.
DD - is now 14! Time is flying! For her Bday I took her and 5 friends to a HI Express where they swam, played video games, etc all night. Exhausting for me, fun for them. I watched 'Charlie Brown Christmas' 3 times and walked the halls keeping track of them all night. I did manage about 3 hours sleep in my adjoining room. Ate WAY too many of the soft chocolate mints at the front desk.
DS16 - dropped a bombshell on me on 12/7. As I was taking him to work on 12/6 - too cold for the cycle - he commented that he may not finish out the season of gymnastics. Later I talked to him and he explained that he does not want to go out of state to college, so doesn't need a gym scholarship, so why should he commit 2 more years, 30+hours/week. Said he was just thinking about it. Morning of 12/7 I asked for his Am. Hist. to submit while he was at work/gym and he said "Duh, I'm not going to gym any more" and that was it. 8.5 years of his life and he decided he was done. I was stunned. His reasoning is right - he wants to go to Pharmacy school and will need to work hard in college. He wants to do some normal teenage things before then. He can live at home and go for free here in NM w/ our Lottery scholarship for his undergrad. He is going to do ninjutsu and is going to work out at a gym. After all he has been thru with the "PITA" coach, I'm glad he left on his own terms. When he went to clean out his locker, the coach never even acknowledged his presence. It was sad.
DH - is still DH, or as DD would say ' grumpy old man'. Sad, but true. At present he has the upper respiratory virus DD had last week.
Me - I've put on a bunch of weight - stress eating is a major issue. But on the bright side, I'm less than I was a year ago. Since I'm no longer paying $250/mo gymnastics tuition + all the travel, we are joining Defined Fitness today ( if we had DH do a free week, we avoided a $55/person membership fee) DH has not gone once during his free week. He says he's not motivated to go and really doesn't want to. He is now at an all time high weight and it is concerning. Personally, I can't wait to go. DS16 and I will use it. DS19 will also be on our membership, but DD14 is too young. She is bummed. It is under 2 mi from my house and if I'm really ambitious, I could easily walk it. I am also going to start going back to WW meetings this week. Not sure what day/time as I don't really like any of my choices - that was the problem, in part, before.
I actually think I went into mourning when DS16 quit gym. It was a shock and truly a lifestyle change as I have also been very involved for the last 8.5 years coaching, doing all the travel arrangements, trips, running events, etc. But, it is time to move on and it is a very good move. He is growing up and beginning to look to the future.
So, I think this is the year for ME! I will still have to deal w/ DD's fencing, but that is not nearly as much. I think that as mom's we sometimes - oftentimes - put ourselves last and I know I've done that for MANY years. No regrets, but I always told myself that when my kids were older, I'd have time for me. Now is the time. DD recently asked me about things I like and like to do and I truly could not come up with things - I've basically lost myself in everyone else's lives.
I am planning to go to the gym 5 days/week. My plan is water aerobics 2-3 days, TM or other cardio, weights and maybe get adventuresome to try some other classes at some point. Using the pool and hot tub/steam room will really be a motivation for me. I'm going to try to focus on me, and not as much on everyone else. I have almost $500 in SW air credit(from already bought gymnastics trip tickets) that will expire in early April and I am hoping to go see my DSis in FL or have her come here. I'm going to Phoenix at the end of Jan w/ DD. I have a niece in IA getting married in June and may go to that. DH is going to OMNI hotel at Champion's gate in Orlando in July for a conference. He insists that we aren't all going, but he will soon learn. Yes, he has meetings most days, but their hotel rate is good for 3 days before and 3 after and they have several ' trips' set up - disney, NASA, beaches, keys, etc. This is all work? NOT!!! The week before, DD has fencing summer nationals is Atlanta, so we may have a long trip if I decide to take her.
So, I'm betting that this won't post - too long, but I'm going to copy before I try. More later......
your way to ward off sickness. I hope that your headache goes away soon.
Lots of changes in your life and it's great that you're focusing on positive things you can do for yourself and your health. Great job! 
