Lilsia
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- Feb 17, 2018
Lol, me too. And in a football stadium (hand pump), and the back of a taxi once. No one even noticed.
Yes, the middle of the night feedings were def a factor for me. Being able to roll over and grab them and nurse in bed vs getting up to make a bottle... Tho that was largely off set by the pain in the butt of pumping at work. But I had a hands free bra and could mostly still work while I was doing it.
The polar opposite of helicopter parenting. I aim to be somewhere in between the 2. Sometimes I fail miserably lol
I do think that bf advocates forget to tell moms how HARD it is and how much time you'll spend pumping if you work. They fail to tell you that you might really struggle to make enough milk. While its pushed to bf, peds don't check for tongue ties and lip ties that can make it incredibly painful for mom and inhibit proper latching and milk production. My youngest had a tongue tie and I had to throw a fit to get it checked and cut. So just like the PP said that there isn't full disclosure about the benefits of bf over formula, there also isn't full disclosure about how hard it is. They make it seem like you'll just pop a baby out and nature will take over and everything will be fine. Not going to lie, with my 1st I only planned to bf until I went back to work. Before he was born some jerk at work told me I'd never be able to do it bc his wife couldn't and she essentially was better than me. Well that made my stubborn nature kick in lol. There were prob 100 times I wanted to quit in those 1st weeks. When my milk didn't come in for 3 days, when I was bleeding and sore, when he was attached to me what felt like 24/7.... But I didn't bc of that one comment lol. Then it was well I made it this far, lets try for 6 months. Ended up making it about 15 months. Pumping was a nightmare bc I barely made enough for him for the next day at daycare, but we made it. DS2, well, he had the painful tongue tie. But we got it cut at 3 weeks and it was smooth sailing after that. But everyones experience is different and for anyone to say "everyone can bf" is ridiculous. I absolutely encourage people to try, but I also know it's not everyones cup of tea.
I absolutely feel like new moms do not get the information that they need. I have heard other moms say that their doctor intentionally did not tell them things so they didn't "worry". I am in the camp that it is better to have more information then less. Stop treating woman as if we can't handle the reality of things. What century are we living in? And I agree that not everyone can BF and that we are lucky that there is something like formula available for these babies. My issue is more the lack of, or wrong information.