I know nothing about Manitoba's home health care system. But good news is that I have found Ontario's to be excellent, on two distinct occasions. Not perfect but excellent. I can't imagine the two provinces would be too far off Kimblebee.
The only negative, and excessive waste in my opinion, was the constant interviewing instead of sharing resources/professional notes. So heads up there.
My father was palliative at home so we got a lot, care and equipment, at no cost. But regardless do know everyone will work for you to get you what you need kimblebee. I think you will be plesantly surprised at the commitment to help you with everything. I found PTs and OTs to be the best at problem solving and contacts for a myriad of issues.
Someone will oversee everything. People will be available to you so that you don't feel abandoned with this situation or overwhelmed. Keep the faith there.
There are organizations that will give you equipment for free and/or low cost, if you need items going forward. I did not have to use them for either of my parents, but do know they exist. If they exist in the Toronto area, they exist in Winnipeg.
A couple of insights -
*most professionals are wonderful, compassionate and skilled. However, this is your house. Do not hesitate to communicate if any situation/person is not the best fit. It might seem like a revolving door at times - remember it is your door.
*don't forget to do the disability credit on your taxes when the time comes
*get a file for receipts
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Amazon is a dream company for caregiving needs. There are huge bed pads that are washable, get some. You probably saw them at the hospital.
They are great for a myriad of issues - positioning the most.
Throwaway blue ones are great too. Not the greatest for the enivironment but handy.
*vent here and look after yourself as best you can. We all know you love Richard but stress is stress kimblebee.
*Sometimes when things suddenly change in care you can feel overwhelmed. You will deal. You will get help. You will get through. Remember that in those moments.
*As for not wanting to/venting about the new areas of care re: toileting (I get it). Well, it is what it is. Accept it now. It will simply become getting things done. Just another check off for the day.
*practical - go to Dollarama - use those colourful bags with the ties in the commode. Life will be easier.
*Oh and don't hesitate to have your own boundaries kimblebee. Richard is vulnerable, that could indeed make him demanding at times. Set your limits very early in care, lovingly but firmly.
*None of my business but on your very hardest days try totally flipping the switch and remember to tell him how proud you are of him - that he has pushed through so much! I can't imagine his happiness to be back home and with you. But also his fears right now surrounding having a myriad of needs for his wife, especially being a man. Totally vulnerable moment for you both. Love sent.
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And finally you have him home! That's lovely.