of course every individual is different, but I wonder if the big difference I see between the 18/19/20 year olds now and the ones I came to age with in the late 70's-'life wise' (the practical knowledge based stuff of just day to day life) has anything to do with most schools eliminating any kind of 'life skills' based classes years and years ago and taking some of the things that we as students were solely responsible for-and shifting it to much more parental involvement.
I mean-when I went to school we were required to take a either a 'home economics' or a 'life skills' class. sure, it taught basics most of knew like simple cooking and how to do basic sewing repairs but we also discussed being a 'smart consumer' (ralph nader was popular then
) by making smart spending decisions (on big stuff and with our grocery budgets), and how to make a budget, set short term and long term spending/savings goals, what a good credit record meant....we also were solely responsible for deciding what classes we were taking, and we spent one morning getting in line to sign up for classes each year. I don't remember the concept of parent/teacher conferences after about 5th grade-unless you got in trouble. by the time we went to college we knew how to structure a class schedule.
with my kids (21/almost 24) the only thing that came close to home ec/life skills in high school was what was offered to special ed kids (my son had 'life skills' as part of his iep) but it wasn't even an elective for anyone else. they did have to take a 'current world issues' class but it was large global issues whereas I think they would have done better to include discussions of u.s. job markets for high school grads vs. college, determining if the cost of a particular college major (and private vs. public) was financially sound, trends in housing rental/purchasing markets, credit pitfalls.....when it came to choosing classes the parents were notified of the planned offerings before the kids, sent forms that they were encouraged to fill out for the kids on the classes they wanted them to take, parents had to attend yearly open houses and 3 half days a semester were devoted to parent/teacher conferences-just way more parental driven decision making.
i'm all for parental involvement but it just seems like allot of these young 'adults' don't know how to make the simplest decision, or that in some cases a decision has to be made. I don't know that raising the age of adulthood is the answer-maybe it's better preparing them for adulthood's realities.