The advice you've received is excellent. So, rather than offering such, I'll actually give you a short list of places that I enjoy. If any of these speak to you, great.
Sanaa - The bread service is one of the best items on any menu at any Disney restaurant. That, a very good wine and drink selection, and the opportunity to view animals while dining make this a top pick.
Geyser Point - To be fair, I think the suits who thought up the concept didn't think it through--it's now a hybrid sort of place that's not quite a bar/lounge and not quite a TS. Weird. That being said, it's lovely, has very good drinks, and the views superb. You can even watch part of the MK fireworks and hear piped in music there at night.
Tutto Gusto Wine Cellar - No ADRs accepted, but if you go early before lunch or dinner hours, you can get in and likely get a seat in their casual "couch" room. It's small, cozy, and a great place not only for watching people but to enjoy some good Italian wines, antipasto, pasta, and other small plates.
CA Grill Brunch - If you're there over a Sunday, this is a stunning venue. Not only do you get views of the Castle, but the service and food are topnotch. I recently heard, though have not confirmed, that the Bloody Mary bar is now included in the price of the brunch. It's expensive, and it can be difficult to snag, but it's well worth the effort.
Kimonos - If you like sushi, it's the place to go at Disney. Modern vibe, lots of hotel guests in for conferences, but not loud or obnoxious.
Ragland Road - Want to be entertained? This is a great place, and the food is largely good, as well.
Morimoto - Bustling, vibrant, modern decor, and with plenty of good food and drink. If you go at dinner, I highly recommend the
buri bop served table side.
Boathouse - There are tables outside if the weather is decent, so the views will be excellent. Also, their appetizers are mostly winners. Carpaccio? Double yum. Try it with a Brut.
As others said, I'd try places that aren't on your usual "shopping" list, but these above are places I believe you'd enjoy not only the food but the ambiance, as well.