I can't believe how much weddings have changed over the years. It is such an industry now and all the TV shows depict more and more elaborate and clever weddings so that everyone now sees them as the norm. Everyone tries to one up everybody else and the gift issue goes right along with that.
Thank you for speaking that out loud.
You were reading my mind.
Modern weddings are a poster child for "Keeping up with the Joneses"
1. It's just ONE DAY in a life. Yes, an important day, but not as important as the rest of your days being married- days when you need to balance the budget, spend time teaching your kids your values, etc as you go through the ups and downs of life together.
Who are folks trying to impress anyway?
2. The real gift, as a PP mentioned, is that people cared enough about you to come be with you on a special day.
DS and his fiancee' are planning a simple wedding with a down home potluck reception.
They have been to weddings where some folks get to come to the reception and some don't.
They want their friends and family to just come celebrate with them.
No gift necessary but if you want to bring something, bring a dish to pass.
They both have large extended families and many friends and the gift of their
presence on that day would mean the world to them.
Love is not measured in dollars and cents.
Memories are not made of money either.
But hugs, handshakes, conversations, and pictures to remember these precious moments- those are priceless~