Sonya
Kaki Gori veteran
- Joined
- Sep 16, 1999
It's taken me a while to post this but I'm really interested in hearing your responses. Before I start let me say DH and I are totally thrilled to be having a baby, boy or girl, and we are soooooo blessed that he is healthy.
However, and this is going to sound stupid, we never considered when we were TTC that we might have a boy! For years we had been dreaming of our daughter, one who would be "daddy's little girl", one who would let me put her hair in pigtails and have red hair like me , and one who would look cute in dresses or hiking boots. We dreamed of ballet lessons and Disney Princesses for Halloween.
I had saved all my toys from growing up, from my dolls to my barbies, I even have 2 three-story barbie houses that my dad made and mom decorated. Now it seems that they won't get much use.
We were a little disappointed when we saw it's a boy, and I felt a little guilty, after all I was having a healthy child and many can't, and G-d gives you what you need! I soon realized I was mourning a dream that I had kept for a long time that wasn't going to be, at least not yet. (We hope the next will be a girl, but fate sometimes is perverse, I want one so I'm not going to get one, that sort of thing )
I'm so ready to see my little boy and love him and kiss him, but I realize I still need another dream. DH and I aren't sports fans so saying instead of ballet lessons you will have soccer practice doesn't fill me with overwhelming joy. So I need you all to tell me some of the things that make raising little boys so wonderful and all the neat little things I can look forward to. My 1st frog in the house? Buzz Lightyear for Halloween?
Please don't flame me, I've put my feeling out here honestly and with all my preggo hormones I don't really want them squished. I KNOW we are lucky and blessed, I KNOW things will be wonderful with little Thor just like they would have been with a little Thorina. I just have no idea what raising a boy will entail!
However, and this is going to sound stupid, we never considered when we were TTC that we might have a boy! For years we had been dreaming of our daughter, one who would be "daddy's little girl", one who would let me put her hair in pigtails and have red hair like me , and one who would look cute in dresses or hiking boots. We dreamed of ballet lessons and Disney Princesses for Halloween.
I had saved all my toys from growing up, from my dolls to my barbies, I even have 2 three-story barbie houses that my dad made and mom decorated. Now it seems that they won't get much use.
We were a little disappointed when we saw it's a boy, and I felt a little guilty, after all I was having a healthy child and many can't, and G-d gives you what you need! I soon realized I was mourning a dream that I had kept for a long time that wasn't going to be, at least not yet. (We hope the next will be a girl, but fate sometimes is perverse, I want one so I'm not going to get one, that sort of thing )
I'm so ready to see my little boy and love him and kiss him, but I realize I still need another dream. DH and I aren't sports fans so saying instead of ballet lessons you will have soccer practice doesn't fill me with overwhelming joy. So I need you all to tell me some of the things that make raising little boys so wonderful and all the neat little things I can look forward to. My 1st frog in the house? Buzz Lightyear for Halloween?
Please don't flame me, I've put my feeling out here honestly and with all my preggo hormones I don't really want them squished. I KNOW we are lucky and blessed, I KNOW things will be wonderful with little Thor just like they would have been with a little Thorina. I just have no idea what raising a boy will entail!