Hi everyone
(english my second language, sorry for my mistakes)
My husband and I had family problems with his mom.
And I still have mixed fillings about what happend and who is wright?
Please tell me who is wright?
Here is the story.
Me and my husband have sweet baby girl she is almost year old (and she is big baby , bigger then 96% her age group)
Grandparents invited us to visit them. We did it often before baby born.
They live 3h 30 min from us. we go there each 2 month or so (before we had a baby)
So now we would like to continue go there so grand parent would see how baby is growing and spend time with her
When we came we noticed that they made big upgrade for their house. Good wood floors, new furniture and many more.
But they did nothing to make their house baby friendly.
No protection on outlets. We had to tell them and they went to buy it.
No 1 book for kid, no 1 toy.
and NO CRIB.
I have to say that baby doesn't like to sleep in pack n play. She refused to do it many months ago.
So when we arrived in their house we were alredy tired from the trip.
Then in the evening we didn't know how to make baby to fall a sleep.
mother in law (MIL) gave me 2 blankets to put on the floor so baby can sleep on it. baby refused to sleep on that blankets on the floor.
I tryed to sleep with her on big bed. It also didn't work. baby so used to sleep in her crib so she just coudn't calm down and try to sleep next to me.
Finally after sleepless hours about 2pm baby layer next to me and fall a sleep.
And ALL NIGHT each 1 hour she kept waking uo and crying!
(She alway sleep through whole night without any cries)
So I didnt' sleep that night and my baby girl also didn't.
My husband saw all of that turture and wanted to drive back home in the middle of the night.
In the morning he told me , We have to pack and leave that house.
I suggested. If we will do that your mom will be unhappy and very offended.
So may be you can tell her options?
We can not stay here because baby need to take naps in the day time and good sleep at night and it could be possible only in CRIB. otherwise we have to drive back home.
She go so mad, she stood up from the table hissed at us --> Ok I see you gave me an ultimatum- Buy Crib or we will leave.
And she left to buy it.
My husband wanted to pack and run out the door from her.
I stopped it and said do not need to make that situation even worse.
After she came home. and baby could finally have good sleep in new crib. They started argue. (husband and his mom)
She said that it is our responsibilities as parents to but a crib FOR GRANDPARENT HOUSE. Or take pack n play with us (which we many times explained to her that baby doesn't sleep on it)
She siad it is not responsibility of grandparent to provide crib for baby in their house.
WHAT DO you think about it?
(english my second language, sorry for my mistakes)
My husband and I had family problems with his mom.
And I still have mixed fillings about what happend and who is wright?
Please tell me who is wright?
Here is the story.
Me and my husband have sweet baby girl she is almost year old (and she is big baby , bigger then 96% her age group)
Grandparents invited us to visit them. We did it often before baby born.
They live 3h 30 min from us. we go there each 2 month or so (before we had a baby)
So now we would like to continue go there so grand parent would see how baby is growing and spend time with her
When we came we noticed that they made big upgrade for their house. Good wood floors, new furniture and many more.
But they did nothing to make their house baby friendly.
No protection on outlets. We had to tell them and they went to buy it.
No 1 book for kid, no 1 toy.
and NO CRIB.
I have to say that baby doesn't like to sleep in pack n play. She refused to do it many months ago.
So when we arrived in their house we were alredy tired from the trip.
Then in the evening we didn't know how to make baby to fall a sleep.
mother in law (MIL) gave me 2 blankets to put on the floor so baby can sleep on it. baby refused to sleep on that blankets on the floor.
I tryed to sleep with her on big bed. It also didn't work. baby so used to sleep in her crib so she just coudn't calm down and try to sleep next to me.
Finally after sleepless hours about 2pm baby layer next to me and fall a sleep.
And ALL NIGHT each 1 hour she kept waking uo and crying!
(She alway sleep through whole night without any cries)
So I didnt' sleep that night and my baby girl also didn't.
My husband saw all of that turture and wanted to drive back home in the middle of the night.
In the morning he told me , We have to pack and leave that house.
I suggested. If we will do that your mom will be unhappy and very offended.
So may be you can tell her options?
We can not stay here because baby need to take naps in the day time and good sleep at night and it could be possible only in CRIB. otherwise we have to drive back home.
She go so mad, she stood up from the table hissed at us --> Ok I see you gave me an ultimatum- Buy Crib or we will leave.
And she left to buy it.
My husband wanted to pack and run out the door from her.
I stopped it and said do not need to make that situation even worse.
After she came home. and baby could finally have good sleep in new crib. They started argue. (husband and his mom)
She said that it is our responsibilities as parents to but a crib FOR GRANDPARENT HOUSE. Or take pack n play with us (which we many times explained to her that baby doesn't sleep on it)
She siad it is not responsibility of grandparent to provide crib for baby in their house.
WHAT DO you think about it?