pacrosby
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- Nov 6, 2009
agian no one is passing judgment, or pointing a finger. I am sorry you feel that way. there would be no discussion without differences of opinion. You are getting offendend when none was meant, and it isn't just me not understanding the anger here. I never said YOUR child had open heatr surgery or that his is why you held him back, but the child i was discussing DID and still managed to go to school on time dispite heart problems that are very limitn and a major surgery just months before starting K. I am simply saying that it CAN be done. Having mediacal issues does not automatically mean a child needs to be redshirted. If anything, in most cases, those children need as normal an experience as possible. Tehy want to do what every other child thier age is doing. I really don't understand where you are getting the idea that anyone is judging you by saying they would or have made different choices for thier children. I for one wish I had the option of sending my DD to K a year before she went, but the rule here is that you MUST be 5 by sept 1 to start, no exceptions. She missed it by 6 weeks and was obviously ready, but Iwas not given an option.
I'm not 'angry'. I'm crazed by the arrogance of some people (and that isn't directed at you, but to be honest, you often do come across as such, whether or not you intend to).
Let's really follow the bouncing ball here ok? You are quoting my posts so you are talking to 'me' right? I mean generally that is how it works here on the boards.
Soooo.....
Why are you quoting my post and then talking about the child who had open heart surgery right before K who still started on time and did well? What does that have to do with what I said? My child didn't even have any OHS's when he was 4. I never connected any kind of surgery with the reason for keeping him out. Why are you quoting my post and then talking aobut how kids can have medical conditions and still start school 'on time'? I certainly never suggested they couldn't or shouldn't. Again, I never used his medical dx as the reason he was being held. What does that have to do with what I have said? You never once said anything to suggest that you believed I "might" have had reasonable cause for my decision. Too busy presenting your examples to the contrary I suppose. You're a teacher and you can't see how someone might feel the passing of judgement? Hmmmmmm
When you quote someone's post you most definately give the impression that you are challenging their words. You didn't just join the mania known as message boards. I assume you are well aware of that.
Again, I really am not angry. But I'm certainly not going to let people comment on my words without retort. Especially in those circumstances when what is being said leaves me scratching my head in confusion. Let's see, I think the one where the poster said I was using my child's medical dx as an EXCUSE to keep him back was one of the more memorable ones; another, when you based an entire post on a misquote LOL; and of course when you suggested that you were just giving examples of how things turned out well for a child in a situation similar to mine who went to school 'on time'.........ummmmmm and what makes that child's situation similar to mine? The mere presence of 'some CHD'????????? All of that on top of expressing a point of view about what YOU would do in another person's rather delicate situation when you don't know the scope of their circumstances is doomed for disasterous results. Honestly, your confusion as to why I might not be giggling my way through our exchange leaves me questioning your ability to consider another's perspective. Of course, that is pretty much the theme here, isn't it?