Mermaid02
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 1, 2002
4 adult kids and our last is getting married in June. The other 3 were this past year.
I just want to say the tradition of the brides family paying for the wedding is so old and out dated and that tradition needs to be broken. It is so wrong for the grooms parents and family not to pay anything is wrong. This is your sons wedding too, not a free loading weekend.
We have 2 girls and 2 boys. After our first dd got married and we were told by the grooms parents that the wedding was our responsibility and then they went and booked a $7000 venue. We smartened up very fast.
With the next 3 we did a family meeting and discussed expectations with both sides of the families.
I agree with the bolded 100+ times! It is a tradition that comes from the concept of a "dowry" and is absolutely archaic. If parents want to pay for their child's wedding it should not be because it's their daughter- I see many folks here saying they will give their sons the same amount and I applaud that.