Parents with kids of the same sex

[pigletgirl]

How many questions and "poor you" did you get while expecting your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc? We're having our third girl at the end of May (due May 31st), and my husband and I get asked on a frequent basis. "You NEED to try for THE boy?!" "Your poor husband, he'll be living in the estrogen ocean!" "Did you try and sway for a boy?"

They're all REALLY unnecessary questions, and quite frankly, it makes me uncomfortable! I'm proud of my family, and I know my husband is as well.

Does anyone have any good comebacks?

Help a mama out!

Thx!

 

[DizneyMommy]

All the time. SO annoying, I wanted girls, I LOVE that I have 3 girls, and I hate that people make comments in front of them to suggest that one of them should have been a boy or that its unfortunate they are a girl. People don't think.

 

[DizneyMommy]

I just say I wished for 3 girls and I got my wish, thank you very much.

 

[georgina]

I agree people don't think, or don't know what to say so say something stupid. As one of 6 daughters myself, I try to refrain from those types of comments to my nephew who has 3 daughters. People do ask them frequently if they are going to try for a boy.

 

[DawnM]

Wow. I have 3 boys, and the 3rd we ADOPTED and had a choice. So there! (not directed at you!)

 

[pigletgirl]

Wow. I have 3 boys, and the 3rd we ADOPTED and had a choice. So there! (not directed at you!)

Haha! I could hear it now... "What do you mean you didn't want a girl?!?!

 

[quandrea]

I have two girls and a boy. Believe it or not, with my boy girl twins, I get, “I bet you’re glad that he wasn’t another girl!” I’m usually pretty forthright and say, “I didn’t care if they were boys or girls. I’ve lost sixteen, and I’m beyond glad they are here. Boy or girl.”

Those comments bug me more than most people. Any baby, regardless of gender, is a gift. However, I also think people mean no harm—just a stupid comment.

 

[mom2rtk]

Wow. I have 3 boys, and the 3rd we ADOPTED and had a choice. So there! (not directed at you!)

Love it!

 

[Gumbo4x4]

We have 2 girls. People feel sorry for me and I let them.

 

[NinaBella]

How many questions and "poor you" did you get while expecting your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc? We're having our third girl at the end of May (due May 31st), and my husband and I get asked on a frequent basis. "You NEED to try for THE boy?!" "Your poor husband, he'll be living in the estrogen ocean!" "Did you try and sway for a boy?"

They're all REALLY unnecessary questions, and quite frankly, it makes me uncomfortable! I'm proud of my family, and I know my husband is as well.

Does anyone have any good comebacks?

Help a mama out!

Thx!

Well, I have three boys and my youngest is a girl. I wasn’t trying for a fourth, I was looking at international adoption ( I would have adopted a girl. I also lived in the country I would have adopted from so I could of fostered from birth until adoption was final.) when I found out I was pregnant. Now I get “you kept trying until you got a girl” remarks. I do know a hockey mom that has 5 boys.

 

[NinaBella]

I know someone with three sons and when she gets comments about if she wanted a girl she replies she will have a daughter in the future, she’s just going to let her son pick her (daughter in law).

 

[DawnM]

Haha! I could hear it now... "What do you mean you didn't want a girl?!?!

My answer (and I hope I am not being too religious here) is that I knew getting pregnant I wouldn't get to choose, so when I filled out the form and it said, "Boy, Girl, Either" I checked "either" and let God pick.

That usually stops them.

 

[OKW8297]

I get it with two boys. Ooooh poor thing you’ll never have that bond. I just say I’m blessed with what God gave me, wouldn’t change a thing, and would have had a third boy if I could

 

[jhoannam]

I don’t get why people ask that, I mean we all know we don’t have a choice. I stop asking people anything to do with having kids. You just never know the situation, I’ve had too many friends struggle with infertility.

 

[barkley]

I HATE these types of b.s. comments by people.

i'm the youngest and only girl in a family of 4 siblings. my entire life I've heard how thrilled my parents/the extended family/their friends were that with my birth my parents 'finally got their girl'. it made me feel like less than a person, not that I was wanted-just that my parents wanted 'a girl', any girl. I also feel it's horribly disrespectful and hurtful to my 2 middle brothers-like they were failed genetic trials.

 

[dotfurio]

We have two girls and we got so many questions, people sounding disappointed, people asking us when we were going to try for our 3rd so we'd maybe get a boy. My mom - "you'll never know the special bond between a mother and her son." The questions even came from people we didn't know very well. It finally stopped around the time my youngest was 6 and I turned 40.

 

[usnuzuloose]

I always say you are blessed no matter which you have. Some people don't stop and think before they say it.

 

[scrhsa]

I have three girls and I always used to get "All these girls yours?" Everyone thought that my youngest( a surprise baby) was going to be "THE" boy. My Mom was 4th of 4 girls. I was 2nd of 2 girls. My sister had 2 girls....you get the picture( And we just found out that my oldest is having a girl ). I was like "Nope. God wouldn't do that to this poor baby." And by that I meant that the pressure that poor child would have been under being the the last and only boy!!!! Maybe I couldn't have handled the pressure that would have been put on!!! I was glad she was a girl also because I knew how to do girls

 

[superme80]

I get so much for being a mom of 3 boys. I only tease my boys about not bringing along a twin sister. I don't want them to ever think that I want them to be anybody but who they are. People are rude. I hate the "How do you do it?" Ummm..I parent. No magic formula. My kids aren't perfect, I'm not perfect. We love each other and do the best we can. Yes they are loud, but most kids are.

 

[neverlandsky]

My always go-to answer I use, "We're very blessed" when asked if we're having more children. I had to have a hyster at 29. So I got a lot of the Are you having more children over the years. It doesn't get asked often anymore since I'm nearing 40 and the kids are in their teens now thank goodness.