Who else goes back and forth with emotions on COVID?

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

 

[Monykalyn]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

Turn off the news. Delete or take a break from Facebook, Twitter etc. Find a park near you (bonus if it’s a large state or National park) and go for a walk daily. Rinse and repeat. Will do absolute wonders
We just got back from a National park visit from South Dakota. Was sooooo freeing to hike, eat outside on patios at restaurants, big open fresh areas to appreciate nature’s beauty and recharge. I got off Facebook in March, quit watching the “every day we are all going tonDIE INSTANTLY” news and allow only brief sporadic check ins on any social media that has potential to raise anxiety levels.

staying in a high anxiety level will dono one any good.
There are a couple people I follow on YouTube as they give facts in calm way, have lots of experts on who do the same. I’m not sure I’m allowed to post them here but I’ll share happily via PM.

hang in there! It is HARD to switch off the anxiety inducing stuff but worth it.
And you are NOT alone either

 

[Southernmiss]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

I get it.

My kids are college age. Life keeps moving.

I am always reminding them of all the precautions and buying a supply sanitizer, wipes, and masks for everyone.

I listen to local and national reports.

We all wear masks when out. Pick up groceries. Have done limited take out, etc.

But, I have worked throughout the pandemic. I'm in an office by myself. And can mostly social distance when people come in and wear my mask. I have had new procedures precautions and things I've had to implement for work , but overall work has not changed.

Our three kids are gearing up for college in person on their campuses. One son is moving today to his new campus assignment for this year. My husband and he just left to drop things off at his new apartment. And then they will drive 2 1/2 hours back to his original college town to pick up his last items there. They will drive back tomorrow. Drop those items off and help son to set up his new apartment.

Our daughter started coaching children in soccer skills camp last week. She has a different group of kids this week and will continue until end of July. It's outside in 100 plus heat, no masks, but it is outside. So there's that. Hopefully that might help.

She and dh refereed 3 v 3 soccer yesterday for 10 hours, again outside, but no masks.

I went to Walmart grocery yesterday. All but about five people were wearing masks inside. Our governor has declared masks mandatory as of tomorrow. It was actually my best grocery experience to date.

And I second the poster above. Limit your news intake and go outside and live life like normal. It is amazing. And the fresh air and vitamin d is great!

 

[tvguy]

I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by.

Well, considering there was no information before 7 months ago, I'd say information is much much easier to come by now. But as I have been posting for months, the more we learn about coronavirus, the more we realize how little we know about it. Just when they think they have found a fact, they find out it isn't true. The virus is in control.

 

[tvguy]

Turn off the news. Delete or take a break from Facebook, Twitter etc. Find a park near you (bonus if it’s a large state or National park) and go for a walk daily. Rinse and repeat. Will do absolute wonders
We just got back from a National park visit from South Dakota. Was sooooo freeing to hike, eat outside on patios at restaurants, big open fresh areas to appreciate nature’s beauty and recharge. I got off Facebook in March, quit watching the “every day we are all going tonDIE INSTANTLY” news and allow only brief sporadic check ins on any social media that has potential to raise anxiety levels.

staying in a high anxiety level will dono one any good.
There are a couple people I follow on YouTube as they give facts in calm way, have lots of experts on who do the same. I’m not sure I’m allowed to post them here but I’ll share happily via PM.

hang in there! It is HARD to switch off the anxiety inducing stuff but worth it.
And you are NOT alone either

I can't keep track anymore but many parks are closed, I know Yosemite National Park was. It appears to be open again under tight restrictions.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

Before the infighting starts again, I wanted you to know you are not alone. I think that is how the majority of people feel. Just trying to stumble and fumble through this and do best for our families. I'm not sure how old your children are but I don't think we give enough credit for children being resilient. Children also feed off our cues and emotions as adults. You know your child best and if he/she would be able to wear a mask for follow the rules about keeping hands to themselves and you know your school best. Don't let all the noise get in the way of what you think is best. Don't let everyone guilt you and or think they know best because frankly they don't. In the end we are all fumbling through this.

I don't have children but I have a mother in a long term care facility. I worry everyday if I'm doing the right thing by putting my faith and hope and worry in the facility staff. I don't know that I could keep her any safer with me considering we are in and out with work. This whole thing is hard tightrope walk and so much outside noise crowds in. I have to decide to tune out and not be influence by the shouters and do what I need to and be at peace with my decisions. The people who shout the loudest aren't going to "win." Do what is best for you all.

 

[Monykalyn]

have to decide to tune out and not be influence by the shouters and do what I need to and be at peace with my decisions.

Exactly! And make your own risk assessment.

As far as National parks go I think most are back open, but visitor centers may be closed or restricted. We stopped at a Custer state park visitor center- SD isn’t a state with mask mandate but the center asked everyone to wear them. While we were there only one family didn’t have them on- we had ours on. No one said anything to that family but I do think they started feeling uncomfortable about being the “odd” ones out and left fairly quickly. I don’t think we need the “Karen’s” shaming people, I think simple confident behavior will do it on its own.

ETA: woo-pig-sooie! My oldest just graduated from UArk-Fayetteville!

 

[cvjw]

We feel the same way! Just to give you a positive virus story - my 76 year old father and 73 year old mother both got the virus 2 weeks ago. My dad was sick for about a week, my mother a few days. Both recovered wonderfully! Neither required medical attention. All they have left is just some fatigue, but they are growing stronger every day. I know some people have underlying conditions that make the virus more dangerous for them, but my 70+ year old parents are a testament that getting the virus isn’t life threatening for everyone!

 

[disneychrista]

For me I was just starting to get comfortable and think maybe I could do a few things and then things started getting crazy. Now I am back to feeling like I can't go anywhere or do anything. I am resigned to staying home until the fall.

 

[fly girl]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

Nope, you are not the only one.

Of course I wear my mask when I go out, but I do second guess myself. Did I really need to go to TJMaxx? Was it wise to take dd and a friend to miniature golf?

Such a tricky balance. I go back and forth all the time. The main things I am staying away from is indoor groups with a lot of people. No church. No bars (not that I was going to a bar anyway). I know casinos are open, but personally, I am not ready yet.

I am doing the best I can to be responsible. Some may disagree with actions I take, but I have respect for Covid so I take the necessary precautions they have continually told us to do (wash hands, don't touch face, stay 6 feet apart when possible, etc.)

I have found that I need the break from news. That has been the best thing I have done for my sanity.

 

[clutter]

We feel the same way! Just to give you a positive virus story - my 76 year old father and 73 year old mother both got the virus 2 weeks ago. My dad was sick for about a week, my mother a few days. Both recovered wonderfully! Neither required medical attention. All they have left is just some fatigue, but they are growing stronger every day. I know some people have underlying conditions that make the virus more dangerous for them, but my 70+ year old parents are a testament that getting the virus isn’t life threatening for everyone!

The worst part is that you just don't know who will get hit hard and who won't. So many young people that got hit hard for seemingly no reason.

 

[wenrob]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

Are you me? I spent a good part of the evening crying yesterday. I think it’s having no control over what happens that does it. Sometimes that’s freeing and sometimes it locks you up in the doom cycle.

 

[maxaroni]

It is a range of emotions for me and I can go from being okay one minute, to be not okay the next.

For the most part, DH & I are doing well. We are both working from home, in our 60s with DH having health issues. We tend to be more cautious than perhaps is necessary, but that is okay. It works for us. We are in NJ, and slowly opening up. Restaurants were to open for inside dining 7/2, but that was postponed. We only do curbside pickup or delivery. Our DS27 & his fiancée do or food shopping and anything we can’t do by curbside pick up/delivery. We take walks in our neighborhood, take rides to the shore, etc. So, life is humming along and our day to day life is manageable, for us.

First, where the emotions come from is that back in March, never thought we’d be still in the thick of it in July, with areas still spiking. Thought we’d have more of a new normal with restrictions, but open.

Secondly, my dad is 84, living in Florida alone. He lives in a single family home and does well on his own, so far. He’s relatively healthy for nearing 85. I worry about his health to begin with and when something happens, do I go down, in the nearly 3 years he’s been there. For instance, he broke his ankle and insisted he did not want me coming down. I kept in contact with his neighbor and talked to him daily. However, God forbid he needs to be hospitalized, would I even be able to see him? If he got covid, can we see him?, etc.

Thirdly, my ds was to be married in April and had to be postponed. It was really hard as we were a month out, all set, getting excited and Bam. Postponed. It took a few days for us all to take a step back and say, we are all healthy and are families are all healthy, that is the most important thing. They rescheduled for November 2020 and
who knows if that will be able to happen. Looking at a possible plan B & plan C but it is hard.

So much is out of our control, for me, that is one of the hardest parts.

 

[mrs. magoo]

I posted about this last week. I just spent 3 hours working with my daughters in there room peeling wall paper and I was stressing about the fact that my one daughter is babysitting for a family and is not wearing a mask. I know that I sound crazy but I actually worry that my friends will be rude to us since she is doing what they consider risky. My younger daughter came home almost 2 weeks ago from a plane trip to Minnesota to see her best friend from college. I was raked across the coals for allowing her to do this completely unnecessary risky adventure. I politely told them that you have no idea the mental health crisis we have been living with since March and she needed to do this for her mental health. She has truly been in a much better place since coming home. We all need to do what is best for us. I read a person the other day who said if we would do these 3 things we could get things under control - Wear a mask in public when you can not social distance, wash your hands and avoid crowds. Sounds so simple.

 

[spiders]

I take precautions but I am also firmly falling into the camp of everyone needs to be sent back to work. If you aren’t comfortable then don’t go but don’t expect to keep getting paid.

If the new standard is you only need to go to work when you are comfortable then nobody is going to be at work anymore.

 

[billlaurie]

I feel like I’m the only one who goes back and forth between being terrified and resigned about COVID-19. One minute I’m “taking the proper precautions it’s ok to have limited contact with others and send the kids to school.” The next I’m like “keep the kids in the house or we are all going to die.” I try and read only scientific and unbiased information, but that seems harder and harder to come by. I’ve been snoozing people on social media who clearly have an agenda one way or the other, but it only helps so much. Who else feels like this?

I feel exactly the same. The ever changing feelings drives my husband crazy!

 

[littlejimmy]

We feel the same way! Just to give you a positive virus story - my 76 year old father and 73 year old mother both got the virus 2 weeks ago. My dad was sick for about a week, my mother a few days. Both recovered wonderfully! Neither required medical attention. All they have left is just some fatigue, but they are growing stronger every day. I know some people have underlying conditions that make the virus more dangerous for them, but my 70+ year old parents are a testament that getting the virus isn’t life threatening for everyone!

nice story. just out of curiosity, did they have any activities that they might have gotten it from, or were they being safe and just happened to get the unluck of the draw? would be curious to know if they did any "risky" activities.

 

[Monykalyn]

We feel the same way! Just to give you a positive virus story - my 76 year old father and 73 year old mother both got the virus 2 weeks ago. My dad was sick for about a week, my mother a few days. Both recovered wonderfully! Neither required medical attention. All they have left is just some fatigue, but they are growing stronger every day. I know some people have underlying conditions that make the virus more dangerous for them, but my 70+ year old parents are a testament that getting the virus isn’t life threatening for everyone!

. Yes we need more stories like that showing this is the NORM not the exception!! So glad your parental units are doing ok.

I was raked across the coals for allowing her to do this completely unnecessary risky adventure. I politely told them that you have no idea the mental health crisis we have been living with since March and she needed to do this for her mental health.

ugh I am so DONE with the mcJudgersons out there. Just done. It’s easy to give lip service to “mental health is important” or BLM but when it it comes down to actually supporting it things flip. Glad your daughter did what she needed to help her feel better. And I wouldn’t have been polite

 

[Monykalyn]

nice story. just out of curiosity, did they have any activities that they might have gotten it from, or were they being safe and just happened to get the unluck of the draw? would be curious to know if they did any "risky" activities.

What’s “risky”? Shopping? Golfing? Walking in a park? Daring to go maskless inside their own home (some idiot “expert” in Texas is advocating this)?

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

Context: I'm a New Yorker.

Life is not going back to normal anywhere until we get a lot stricter about locking down. NYC had zero deaths yesterday for the first time since March. Because we locked it down.