Can't believe the importance that most of you are putting on the first couple days of K. - almost like you'd be missing college. Come on people, I've had three go through it in different states and the first few days are nothing to get in a tizzy about. And no, PP, you will not lose your place in a public school because you don't go the first few days. Where did you get that? Under these particular circumstances, this child being with his dad and family would be much more important. If you reread her post, she has said acclimating in the past after his dad's absence has been hard, and she's supposed to ignore his mental anguish to not miss a couple first days of K?? OP, I'd listen to my own instinct and knowledge of my family issues and trust me, it would be a very hard hearted teacher and principal that would not be understanding. And, as I said before, here the children are graduated into the first week of K a few at a time. Do you think the ones going in the last of the week are at a disadvantage? No, they are not - it's a gradual getting settled time. Relax, no worries, enjoy, and thank your DH for me
You do realize you could give your advice to the op without insulting other posters opinions?Can't believe the importance that most of you are putting on the first couple days of K. - almost like you'd be missing college. Come on people, I've had three go through it in different states and the first few days are nothing to get in a tizzy about. And no, PP, you will not lose your place in a public school because you don't go the first few days. Where did you get that? Under these particular circumstances, this child being with his dad and family would be much more important. If you reread her post, she has said acclimating in the past after his dad's absence has been hard, and she's supposed to ignore his mental anguish to not miss a couple first days of K?? OP, I'd listen to my own instinct and knowledge of my family issues and trust me, it would be a very hard hearted teacher and principal that would not be understanding. And, as I said before, here the children are graduated into the first week of K a few at a time. Do you think the ones going in the last of the week are at a disadvantage? No, they are not - it's a gradual getting settled time. Relax, no worries, enjoy, and thank your DH for me
You do realize you could give your advice to the op without insulting other posters opinions?
Also, public schools do not operate under the same rules, so to imply other people are wrong because it isn't your experience would be a mistake.
Do you also realize you could give advice to the OP without insulting other posters opinions?? I have other things to do than try to understand why the first couple days of K are such a big deal to some people. I also gave my opinion, and it seems from reading these posts that there are others on here that feel the same way. To quote you, "to imply other people are wrong because it isn't your experience would be a mistake.!!
Many thanks to you and your husband for all your sacrifices on our behalf.
I'm in the camp of "call the district."
My school hasn't yet put out next year's calendar since it's still being worked on. But they DO know when school starts; that's not one of the pieces still waiting to be put together.
I teach high school, not Kindergarten, so this is from a mom's perspective. Those first few days in a new school are when the friendships form. They're when the routines are set up for everything from how to buy lunch to what to do when you need to go to the bathroom. They're when the kids are expected to make mistakes. A week later, "the new kid" is walking into an established routine and established cliques. If there's any possible way to work things so your son doesn't miss those first few days, I think you should explore them.
I think any other time except the first couple of days of kindergarten can be easily missed. I just can't imagine missing the first day of kindergarten, and I'm not even that sentimental! New outfit, pictures, teary parents... It's a milestone moment in your child's life.
OK, you teach high school (first clue). I've always been a SAHM and volunteered a lot with the little ones, have had three go through that and trust me the first week of K is not the last week that they're expected to make mistakes. This is a gradual process, and for the most part (with the exceptions that children may have been close before - neighbors, etc - ) cliques are not formed the first week. In fact, the first couple weeks are a zoo The teachers and assistants are very understanding. I agree with the majority that family time is far more important than the first few days of school and it is time that can never be reclaimed. This is a special circumstance and not like one poster said missing so much you have to go to court. It is more common than you might think. I have a very good friend that has worked in the school office here (2nd largest district in our state, not podunk corners) for many years and no one is penalized or turned away for checking in late. Also, from my own observation, no child has suffered any issues from checking in later at that age because not one child "gets it" from what they learn at first. OP, listening to some of the other posters here that have experienced first - hand the family time that was so important to them under your circumstances, I would surely not worry about a few days of missed K school - as someone pointed out, he will not even know it unless you tell him. Have a great time with your united family