And that is where therapy comes in. I have never in my almost 40 years EVER felt like I was "given away". My parents were very honest from the beginning about my adoption. My bio mom was an 18 year old who was completely unfit to care for a child. There is NO shame in that. Due to circumstances, my parents tried to adopt my half sister, but were unable to. I know I have another half sister out there. It too my bio mom some years to get her act together. Should she have had contact with me during those formative years? Yeah NO! It sounds like you know people who's adoptions were handled poorly. That is where therapy and possible medication comes in. There is NO shame in needing any of that. Taking away the needed and WANTED anonymity is a HUGE mistake. I personally have no need to be found. So should my info be out there for my sisters to find me? No it shouldn't. I would be so angry if anyone from my bio family just showed up and tried to contact me without my permission. I have had friends who have found their bio family no problem, others have encountered problems. I have a family. I have in laws. I do not need to find anyone else. So their "Desire" to find more family trumps my desire to remain anonymous?