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- Jan 12, 2008
Looking for some advice on how to deal with a difficult adult child. I just typed up a whole post about how she was difficult this weekend, but erased it.
She is defensive, snippy, doesn't do her chores and isn't nice to people around her, especially her young siblings. She feels as though "everyone is out to get her". As an example, a few weeks ago she went outside to a community area to hang her hammock and read a book. There was a family already outside playing, as they do everyday. She insisted they were being loud and setting off the car alarm (brand new car they just purchased) in an effort to harass her. She also thinks her peditrican hates her because the pedi told her the importance of going to college. sigh.
She doesn't do her one and only chore in the house and when reminded to do it she does a terrible job (cleaning the kitchen counters, loading the dishwasher).
Over the years we have tried counseling a few times to help her deal with depression/anxiety. She has what I would call "occassional anxiety" as maybe 1-2 times a year she goes through a 2-3 week period of feeling anxious, unable to sleep and basically sad. She is currently seeing her pedi and taking meds for this. She refuses to go to any type of counseling again.
We had "Family Fun Day" yesterday and she really just ruined it. She was miserable, snippy and bossy the entire time. I did tell her to "cut it out" and we actually only did 1/2 of what we planned to do due to her attitude.
I have already decided she is not invited on our next trip and I am really looking for advice on how to deal with her. I will add I did not tolerate her behavior and do call her out when its really obxious.
What suggestions do you have?
She is defensive, snippy, doesn't do her chores and isn't nice to people around her, especially her young siblings. She feels as though "everyone is out to get her". As an example, a few weeks ago she went outside to a community area to hang her hammock and read a book. There was a family already outside playing, as they do everyday. She insisted they were being loud and setting off the car alarm (brand new car they just purchased) in an effort to harass her. She also thinks her peditrican hates her because the pedi told her the importance of going to college. sigh.
She doesn't do her one and only chore in the house and when reminded to do it she does a terrible job (cleaning the kitchen counters, loading the dishwasher).
Over the years we have tried counseling a few times to help her deal with depression/anxiety. She has what I would call "occassional anxiety" as maybe 1-2 times a year she goes through a 2-3 week period of feeling anxious, unable to sleep and basically sad. She is currently seeing her pedi and taking meds for this. She refuses to go to any type of counseling again.
We had "Family Fun Day" yesterday and she really just ruined it. She was miserable, snippy and bossy the entire time. I did tell her to "cut it out" and we actually only did 1/2 of what we planned to do due to her attitude.
I have already decided she is not invited on our next trip and I am really looking for advice on how to deal with her. I will add I did not tolerate her behavior and do call her out when its really obxious.
What suggestions do you have?